Author Topic: Planning weddings (Read 87932 times)

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #700 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:08:01 PM »

Quote from: Mrs. Gooch on March 28, 2016, 04:03:21 PM

Wacky, when you do the thing I said about getting the credit, make sure to tell B-I-L that it was ok but not something you would want to do again....that way they don't try to buy you a 1st anniversary gift like you are going to get them.

meow meow · « **Reply #701 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:12:34 PM »

sounds like something JoJo's brother would do.

pissclams · « **Reply #702 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:18:02 PM »

i wouldn't go (obviously)

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #703 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:21:41 PM »

This could be a great BBS'ing opportunity, but gE cut back my salary recently, and I just don't know if it's worth it.

DQ12 · « **Reply #704 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:26:14 PM »

wait, let me see if I have this right? ms. wacky is "catholic" or at least comes from a catholic family. you're not getting married in a catholic church -- this would raise plenty of eyebrows for hardcore catholics. presumably your in laws are aware of these facts, and yet they still bought you this super catholic pre-wedding retreat?

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #705 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:28:42 PM »

Quote from: Dlew12 on March 28, 2016, 04:26:14 PM

wait, let me see if I have this right? ms. wacky is "catholic" or at least comes from a catholic family. you're not getting married in a catholic church -- this would raise plenty of eyebrows for hardcore catholics. presumably your in laws are aware of these facts, and yet they still bought you this super catholic pre-wedding retreat?

Yeah, pretty much. Her grandpa is like the head of Catholic charities here in KC. Her having a destination wedding came as a shock to many. That's why we're having a huge reception at Lake Quivira and getting it blessed when we come back.

Tobias · « **Reply #706 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:30:40 PM »

#blessedwhitegirl

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #707 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:32:30 PM »

We have over 250 ppl on our reception list so far, because so many family members are butthurt about not being invited to Colorado.

mocat · « **Reply #708 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:35:58 PM »

That is an amazing gif

DQ12 · « **Reply #709 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:40:27 PM »

well if you guys are trying to keep up appearances that you're serious about the catholic stuff, it might be a good idea to go. if you don't care about the appearances at all, and don't care that your in laws will be insulted (they will), then either (a) tell them to buzz off, or (2) don't go and say you did.

otherwise grin and bear it.

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #710 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:41:35 PM »

Yeah, I definitely don't want to piss off the family. I get along really well with them.

meow meow · « **Reply #711 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:47:11 PM »

Quote from: Dlew12 on March 28, 2016, 04:40:27 PM

well if you guys are trying to keep up appearances that you're serious about the catholic stuff, it might be a good idea to go. if you don't care about the appearances at all, and don't care that your in laws will be insulted (they will), then either (a) tell them to buzz off, or (2) don't go and say you did.

otherwise grin and bear it.

making weekend long plans for someone else as a "gift", when they were obviously not clear about what those plans all entailed, is shady and weird

star seed 7 · « **Reply #712 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:50:20 PM »

I would love to see how each of the WackyCat08 in-laws describe him on their various bbs's

star seed 7 · « **Reply #713 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:51:34 PM »

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he's alright, but too cheap to buy my sister a pony

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #714 on:** March 28, 2016, 04:54:53 PM »

KCFDcat · « **Reply #715 on:** March 28, 2016, 05:06:52 PM »

Most catholics don't even do this anymore. All the churches offer 4 1 hr long marriage sessions that satisfies this requirement. That's what we did and it was cake and was mostly fun to watch the Uber religious people.

That said I can't imagine what kind of person would do this to you. My parents are arguably the most Catholic people in the universe and even they left it completely up to us on what we wanted to do. Kind of a dick move to tell you how to start your marriage.

Why can't you just skip it and say you went? Afraid they'll call and check up?

mocat · « **Reply #716 on:** March 28, 2016, 05:09:42 PM »

You shouldn't lie to them. They'll get over it if you don't go

pissclams · « **Reply #717 on:** March 28, 2016, 05:20:11 PM »

Quote from: Dlew12 on March 28, 2016, 04:40:27 PM

well if you guys are trying to keep up appearances that you're serious about the catholic stuff, it might be a good idea to go. if you don't care about the appearances at all, and don't care that your in laws will be insulted (they will), then either (a) tell them to buzz off, or (2) don't go and say you did.

otherwise grin and bear it.

they shouldn't go just to avoid insulting their in-laws
they should only go if they both want to and are willing to actively participate. that's obviously not the case so they shouldn't go.
i'd be angry w/ in-laws for pushing something like this on me and i would let them know it. lines need to be drawn sooner rather than later.

'taterblast · « **Reply #718 on:** March 28, 2016, 05:24:53 PM »

ok disclaimer, in wacky's original post about it i thought he said "couples massage therapy" so that's why i assumed it was Chateau Avalon. wacky i am so sorry.

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #719 on:** March 28, 2016, 06:06:09 PM »

No worries. I didn't explain it very well.

Dugout DickStone · « **Reply #720 on:** March 28, 2016, 06:30:59 PM »

Quote from: WackyCat08 on March 28, 2016, 04:21:41 PM

This could be a great BBS'ing opportunity, but gE cut back my salary recently, and I just don't know if it's worth it.

If they don't allow phones, that's a deal breaker.

Your bil is not to be trusted from here forward. You sure as crap don't invite him to Bach party

8manpick · « **Reply #721 on:** March 28, 2016, 09:14:49 PM »

If my future BIL got me this I would tell him eff no (thanks but no thanks, depending on sobriety). If my future FIL got me this I would definitely have a talk with him about it, and my concerns, but would respect his wishes if it was really important. Fortunately for me, my in-laws are no more religious than me so that sort of thing isn't an issue.

Wacky, scale of 1-7, how intimidated are you by her family? You are going to have to deal with them the rest of your life. If you let yourself get pushed around, it will only continue and become more expected.

Skipper44 · « **Reply #722 on:** March 28, 2016, 09:21:43 PM »

Yeah WC, it will get real with the kids - paying for Catholic school, confirmation, etc.

slobber · « **Reply #723 on:** March 28, 2016, 09:27:28 PM »

Quote from: Skipper44 on March 28, 2016, 09:21:43 PM

Yeah WC, it will get real with the kids - paying for Catholic school, confirmation, etc.

Do you know how affordable catholic school is in Kansas City? No. You don't.

slobber · « **Reply #724 on:** March 28, 2016, 09:27:33 PM »

Quote from: Skipper44 on March 28, 2016, 09:21:43 PM

Yeah WC, it will get real with the kids - paying for Catholic school, confirmation, etc.

Do you know how affordable catholic school is in Kansas City? No. You don't.