Old Snyder

[MakeItRain]

She's so adorable, love her.

You gotta get out of iowa.

I don't think I lived here in the 90's

[Skipper44]

She's so adorable, love her.

You gotta get out of iowa.

I don't think I lived here in the 90's

ranking the factor of 90's female vocalists could be a great combo fanning thread

[SkinnyBenny]

She's so adorable, love her.

You gotta get out of iowa.

I don't think I lived here in the 90's

ranking the factor of 90's female vocalists could be a great combo fanning thread

omg lisa loeb

[MakeItRain]

She's so adorable, love her.

You gotta get out of iowa.

I don't think I lived here in the 90's

ranking the factor of 90's female vocalists could be a great combo fanning thread

omg lisa loeb

Yep, there's your top 2. Most underrated, Robyn.

[star seed 7]

Loeb makes the contest unfair.

I was at a strip club in lawrence with a gf and a bud and we are the only ones in there and the girl on stage starts dancing to stay and my bud busts out laughing at the song choice and the stripper gets a sour look and yells across the room "don't hate!"

There's my Lisa Loeb story

[SkinnyBenny]

Loeb makes the contest unfair.

I was at a strip club in lawrence with a gf and a bud and we are the only ones in there and the girl on stage starts dancing to stay and my bud busts out laughing at the song choice and the stripper gets a sour look and yells across the room "don't hate!"

There's my Lisa Loeb story

In 2011 my new year's res was to learn all the words to Bombs Over Baghdad and Stay. I spent like a month over the summer learning B.O.B. and it took forever and I basically forgot about the Lisa Loeb one until NYE night when I was getting ready to go out. Put it on repeat and crammed in the shower for like 3 or 4 spins, memorized it. Resolution complete.

There's my Lisa Loeb story

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I think I saw MIR lip sync or sing Stay in the hospitality suite at the kc crowne plaza.

[MakeItRain]

I think I saw MIR lip sync or sing Stay in the hospitality suite at the kc crowne plaza.

You think? I don't lip sync, I have too much talent for that.

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I think I saw MIR lip sync or sing Stay in the hospitality suite at the kc crowne plaza.

You think? I don't lip sync, I have too much talent for that.

I also think I was drinking a lot.

[Sandstone Outcropping]

Call me crazy but I think the 16 goals for success show up in this week’s ep of TAL (about 15 minutes in)

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mmnyjJJteArl8KvLNi2mh?si=mlC1sfUXRPuumSxX5pAy4g&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A41zWZdWCpVQrKj7ykQnXRc

[Sandstone Outcropping]

Call me crazy but I think the 16 goals for success show up in this week’s ep of TAL (about 15 minutes in). Did the goals push someone to suicide?

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mmnyjJJteArl8KvLNi2mh?si=mlC1sfUXRPuumSxX5pAy4g&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A41zWZdWCpVQrKj7ykQnXRc

[Sandstone Outcropping]

Call me crazy but I think the 16 goals for success show up in this week’s ep of TAL (about 15 minutes in). Did the goals push someone to suicide?

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mmnyjJJteArl8KvLNi2mh?si=mlC1sfUXRPuumSxX5pAy4g&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A41zWZdWCpVQrKj7ykQnXRc

I'm on a Zoom call with my brother Pat, talking about a list that was written by our other brother, Mike. And I want to ask him what he thinks I should do with it. It's one of the last pieces of Mike's writing that we have.

John Fecile
What do you think should be done with this list?

Pat Fecile
I don't care. If you burned it, I wouldn't feel sad. I wouldn't be angry. I'd say, why'd you burn it without me?

John Fecile
My brother Mike died in 2015. That's almost 10 years ago now, jeez. And trigger warning and all that-- he died because of a suicidal act. It's unclear why he did what he did. There were stories his roommates told about paranoia, hallucinations, Mike becoming obsessed with aliens. It was all so sudden and shocking that my family and I started grasping around for anything, trying to make it all make sense, which brings me to the list.

Mike wrote the list the summer he was about to be a sophomore in high school, 16 principles to live his life by, titled "Goals for Success," double underlined on a rectangular piece of poster board. They were corny bro-isms, if I'm being honest. "Make a commitment." "Be unselfish." "Create unity." "Come together as never before."

As you can see, Mike was a real overachiever, Type A type. "Improve every day as a player, person, and student." "Be tough." "Be self-disciplined." "Do it right. Don't accept less." He was captain of the high school football team, straight-A student. "Give great effort." "Be enthusiastic." "Eliminate mistakes-- don't beat yourself."

He hung the list on his closet door facing his bed so that when he woke up in the morning, the first thing he saw was, "Expect to win." "Be consistent." "Develop leadership." "Be responsible."

I first noticed the list when I went into Mike's bedroom to steal a pair of his boxers. I was always forgetting to do my laundry. Mike always did his. And my feelings about the list were immediately complicated. I felt like it was somehow judging me.

I was the oldest of my siblings, but to me, Mike always felt older. He was Mr. Rotary Club, Mr. Scheduled Out His Daily Routine. I was Mr. Been Arrested Twice, Mr. Smoking Weed out of an Aluminum Can and Probably Doing Irreparable Damage to My Lungs in the Woods.

[_33]

Whoa, Old Snyder. What a time.