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Title: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 01:20:14 PM
Hello everyone.  I am a master of conquering awkward social situations.  I want to be of help so if you run into a situation or scenario you need guidance on please let me know.  Everyone should feel free to answer as well, but other people's (I am pretty sure I f'ed up that apostrophe placement there...) answers should be taken with a grain of salt.  If you are very self-conscious you can pm me and I will anonymize your question to protect your identity.   
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 01:29:22 PM
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I sometimes have very loud gas at in appropriate times. It hurts to hold it in, but I know I shouldn't fart out loud based on the people around me. What should I do?

This happens to us all.  If you are in an area close to a restroom you should release your gas in the restroom.  If not, then you have two scenarios

1) Cause a distraction by shouting or screaming and release the gas in the meantime. 
2) Own it, gas is a natural thing and people will forget about it after about 15 minutes.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on May 19, 2014, 01:32:02 PM
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I sometimes have very loud gas at in appropriate times. It hurts to hold it in, but I know I shouldn't fart out loud based on the people around me. What should I do?

This happens to us all.  If you are in an area close to a restroom you should release your gas in the restroom.  If not, then you have two scenarios

1) Cause a distraction by shouting or screaming and release the gas in the meantime. 
2) Own it, gas is a natural thing and people will forget about it after about 15 minutes.
That seems like some really good advice for whoever asked that question. I hope they come back and read that.

You appear to be very good at this.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 19, 2014, 01:36:51 PM
related:

my dad will rip out a fart in front of anyone at anytime. I think it's subconscious at this point what do I do? do I ignore it? apologize on his behalf privately later? join in with my own farts to maybe inflate the fart shock market to the point of collapse?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: schreds21 on May 19, 2014, 01:37:43 PM
Is it OK to punch schreds F-I-L when he's picking his bread crust off in a social setting?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 19, 2014, 01:39:28 PM
related:

my dad will rip out a fart in front of anyone at anytime. I think it's subconscious at this point what do I do? do I ignore it? apologize on his behalf privately later? join in with my own farts to maybe inflate the fart shock market to the point of collapse?

it's not just like an oops toot or a suprise blast. It is very deliberate. like he will hold his breath for a second and squeeze it out then loudly exhale through his nose.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 01:40:26 PM
related:

my dad will rip out a fart in front of anyone at anytime. I think it's subconscious at this point what do I do? do I ignore it? apologize on his behalf privately later? join in with my own farts to maybe inflate the fart shock market to the point of collapse?
You should give a "knowing look" (aka the Jim from The Office look) to the others.  If you cannot establish eye contact then you should give a "HA HA" so people look at you then give the "look".
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 19, 2014, 01:41:36 PM
related:

my dad will rip out a fart in front of anyone at anytime. I think it's subconscious at this point what do I do? do I ignore it? apologize on his behalf privately later? join in with my own farts to maybe inflate the fart shock market to the point of collapse?
You should give a "knowing look" (aka the Jim from The Office look) to the others.  If you cannot establish eye contact then you should give a "HA HA" so people look at you then give the "look".

this works well with people i know, but what about strangers? i say ignore completely in that instance.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 01:42:11 PM
Is it OK to punch schreds F-I-L when he's picking his bread crust off in a social setting?
No, you should give the "mortified look" (aka the Pam [seasons 1-3] from The Office look).  It would also be ok to take three steps back away from the offender.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on May 19, 2014, 01:43:06 PM
related:

my dad will rip out a fart in front of anyone at anytime. I think it's subconscious at this point what do I do? do I ignore it? apologize on his behalf privately later? join in with my own farts to maybe inflate the fart shock market to the point of collapse?
puni's dad posts on gE? (or at least PM's Chingon) :surprised:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 01:43:33 PM
related:

my dad will rip out a fart in front of anyone at anytime. I think it's subconscious at this point what do I do? do I ignore it? apologize on his behalf privately later? join in with my own farts to maybe inflate the fart shock market to the point of collapse?
You should give a "knowing look" (aka the Jim from The Office look) to the others.  If you cannot establish eye contact then you should give a "HA HA" so people look at you then give the "look".

this works well with people i know, but what about strangers? i say ignore completely in that instance.
It works best with strangers.  Do not ignore, this will make the others more awkward in that they cannot share their social amusement with someone else.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: schreds21 on May 19, 2014, 01:45:51 PM
Is it OK to punch schreds F-I-L when he's picking his bread crust off in a social setting?
No, you should give the "mortified look" (aka the Pam [seasons 1-3] from The Office look).  It would also be ok to take three steps back away from the offender.
Noted.  How about when he's just being a dipshit in general (which is most of the time).
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 01:47:15 PM
Is it OK to punch schreds F-I-L when he's picking his bread crust off in a social setting?
No, you should give the "mortified look" (aka the Pam [seasons 1-3] from The Office look).  It would also be ok to take three steps back away from the offender.
Noted.  How about when he's just being a dipshit in general (which is most of the time).
I need more specific scenarios/situations. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 19, 2014, 01:47:38 PM
related:

my dad will rip out a fart in front of anyone at anytime. I think it's subconscious at this point what do I do? do I ignore it? apologize on his behalf privately later? join in with my own farts to maybe inflate the fart shock market to the point of collapse?
You should give a "knowing look" (aka the Jim from The Office look) to the others.  If you cannot establish eye contact then you should give a "HA HA" so people look at you then give the "look".

this works well with people i know, but what about strangers? i say ignore completely in that instance.
It works best with strangers.  Do not ignore, this will make the others more awkward in that they cannot share their social amusement with someone else.

you are really good at advice

puni's dad posts on gE? (or at least PM's Chingon) :surprised:

 :surprised:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Cartierfor3 on May 19, 2014, 01:48:39 PM
I was at a graduation party on Saturday. This guy I know who is a complete awkward unconfident dork cornered me and started talking to me about stuff. What is the best way to politely end a conversation with a dude like that?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 01:55:58 PM
I was at a graduation party on Saturday. This guy I know who is a complete awkward unconfident dork cornered me and started talking to me about stuff. What is the best way to politely end a conversation with a dude like that?
Smile and nod for about five minutes, say if was nice catching up with them and that you have to use the restroom, then leave to use the restroom.  Go to the restroom (very important!), but on the way find another social group to attach to.  When leaving the restroom immediately join the new group.  DO NOT make eye contact with the other guy.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Cartierfor3 on May 19, 2014, 01:56:33 PM
I was at a graduation party on Saturday. This guy I know who is a complete awkward unconfident dork cornered me and started talking to me about stuff. What is the best way to politely end a conversation with a dude like that?
Smile and nod for about five minutes, say if was nice catching up with them and that you have to use the restroom, then leave to use the restroom.  Go to the restroom (very important!), but on the way find another social group to attach to.  When leaving the restroom immediately join the new group.  DO NOT make eye contact with the other guy.

 :thumbs:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 19, 2014, 02:10:00 PM
Is it polite to ask people who refuse to eat certain foods why that is? I am a tolerator and don't really care one way or the other, but I am just curious and it seems like a good topic of conversation to me.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: schreds21 on May 19, 2014, 02:12:03 PM
Is it OK to punch schreds F-I-L when he's picking his bread crust off in a social setting?
No, you should give the "mortified look" (aka the Pam [seasons 1-3] from The Office look).  It would also be ok to take three steps back away from the offender.
Noted.  How about when he's just being a dipshit in general (which is most of the time).
I need more specific scenarios/situations.
Like when Mrs Schreds' lil sis bought a new fridge that had no interest for a year (she's a poor) and he told her to just make min payments rather than try to pay it off before the interest began accruing.   Or the evening before our wedding (to which he contributed nothing) when everyone was pitching in to decorate and prepare and he refused to help so he could get to bed since he had a tee time the next morning before his oldest daughter's wedding.  Or when being introduced to Mrs Schreds lil sis' boyfriend's grandmother, the first words out of his mouth are "how old are you?".  I've got lots more if you need them.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 19, 2014, 02:14:10 PM
well you should make the minimum payments, THEN pay off the remaining lump sum at the last possible day to avoid the deferred interest. this way the inflation rate works to your advantage, as well as the time value of money.

she probably got good advice, just forgot the last and most important part.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: _33 on May 19, 2014, 02:15:49 PM
You are eating lunch with someone and they laugh and a little piece of food goes out of their mouth onto your arm.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 19, 2014, 02:16:33 PM
You are eating lunch with someone and they laugh and a little piece of food goes out of their mouth onto your arm.

hurry and eat it before they try to take it back
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: schreds21 on May 19, 2014, 02:17:46 PM
well you should make the minimum payments, THEN pay off the remaining lump sum at the last possible day to avoid the deferred interest. this way the inflation rate works to your advantage, as well as the time value of money.

she probably got good advice, just forgot the last and most important part.
While your advice is sound, I witnessed the conversation and in no way shape or form was this the advice he was giving her.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on May 19, 2014, 02:19:23 PM
Your boss has a decent sized large booger hanging out of his nose?

(This happened to me about 18 years ago. We were at lunch. I didn't say anything. He reached up and felt it, so then he grabbed it and removed it. Not really picking a booger, as it was pretty much fully exposed and didn't have to dig to get it.)
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 02:19:43 PM
Is it polite to ask people who refuse to eat certain foods why that is? I am a tolerator and don't really care one way or the other, but I am just curious and it seems like a good topic of conversation to me.
I would ask if they have an allergy or social reason for avoiding the food and push no further.  This is best done with the justification that you want to make sure the next time they are not forced to refuse food.  Like:

"Oh I am sorry, do you have an allergy to onions or avoid them for religious reasons?  The only reason I am asking is so that next time I make food when you are over I can accommodate your needs." 

Then the next time they come over you can a) warn them the dish will contain food they can't/won't eat, but invite them to bring a dish they like that everyone can enjoy or b) make menu that will have something they can eat.   
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: hemmy on May 19, 2014, 02:20:17 PM
You are eating lunch with someone and they laugh and a little piece of food goes out of their mouth onto your arm.

Oh man this is a good one.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 02:21:01 PM
Is it OK to punch schreds F-I-L when he's picking his bread crust off in a social setting?
No, you should give the "mortified look" (aka the Pam [seasons 1-3] from The Office look).  It would also be ok to take three steps back away from the offender.
Noted.  How about when he's just being a dipshit in general (which is most of the time).
I need more specific scenarios/situations.
Like when Mrs Schreds' lil sis bought a new fridge that had no interest for a year (she's a poor) and he told her to just make min payments rather than try to pay it off before the interest began accruing.   Or the evening before our wedding (to which he contributed nothing) when everyone was pitching in to decorate and prepare and he refused to help so he could get to bed since he had a tee time the next morning before his oldest daughter's wedding.  Or when being introduced to Mrs Schreds lil sis' boyfriend's grandmother, the first words out of his mouth are "how old are you?".  I've got lots more if you need them.
use the appropriate "mortified/knowing" look in all situations.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 02:21:55 PM
You are eating lunch with someone and they laugh and a little piece of food goes out of their mouth onto your arm.
How big of a piece and what kind of food?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 02:26:10 PM
Your boss has a decent sized large booger hanging out of his nose?

(This happened to me about 18 years ago. We were at lunch. I didn't say anything. He reached up and felt it, so then he grabbed it and removed it. Not really picking a booger, as it was pretty much fully exposed and didn't have to dig to get it.)
1) Keep motioning at your own nose with your napkin. 2) If your boss is an alpha-male type just tell him he has something he needs to take care of on his nose.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: schreds21 on May 19, 2014, 02:26:56 PM
Is it OK to punch schreds F-I-L when he's picking his bread crust off in a social setting?
No, you should give the "mortified look" (aka the Pam [seasons 1-3] from The Office look).  It would also be ok to take three steps back away from the offender.
Noted.  How about when he's just being a dipshit in general (which is most of the time).
I need more specific scenarios/situations.
Like when Mrs Schreds' lil sis bought a new fridge that had no interest for a year (she's a poor) and he told her to just make min payments rather than try to pay it off before the interest began accruing.   Or the evening before our wedding (to which he contributed nothing) when everyone was pitching in to decorate and prepare and he refused to help so he could get to bed since he had a tee time the next morning before his oldest daughter's wedding.  Or when being introduced to Mrs Schreds lil sis' boyfriend's grandmother, the first words out of his mouth are "how old are you?".  I've got lots more if you need them.
use the appropriate "mortified/knowing" look in all situations.
Noted.  I'll start working on my "looks".  Something like this?    :sdeek: or more along the lines of  :eek:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 19, 2014, 03:09:20 PM
Here's a situation I was in recently:

On a work trip in a foreign country with three women. We had one day off, split off after lunch to do our own thing - girls were getting a massage with a woman who works in the local (foreign) office - and we had plans to meet for dinner at 6. At about 5:45, I get an email from the local person saying, "Hey, we're having dinner at this place by my house. You can take a 30 minute cab to get here if you want!" I look up the restaurant on tripadvisor and the first review mentions cabs getting lost on the way, and I have no cell phone service in this country to call for directions, and I don't speak the local language. Also I had a late lunch and wasn't very hungry.

How does chingon act in this situation?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on May 19, 2014, 03:11:36 PM
I have been invited to a fundraiser with a bunch of people I have met on the internet.  I plan on drinking a ton to make it less awkward but how do I handle a ton of people who I only know by their internet "handle"?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 19, 2014, 03:13:49 PM
I have been invited to a fundraiser with a bunch of people I have met on the internet.  I plan on drinking a ton to make it less awkward but how do I handle a ton of people who I only know by their internet "handle"?

Don't worry, there will be name tags (I think).
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: sys on May 19, 2014, 03:31:56 PM
On a work trip in a foreign country with three women. We had one day off, split off after lunch to do our own thing - girls were getting a massage with a woman who works in the local (foreign) office - and we had plans to meet for dinner at 6. At about 5:45, I get an email from the local person saying, "Hey, we're having dinner at this place by my house. You can take a 30 minute cab to get here if you want!" I look up the restaurant on tripadvisor and the first review mentions cabs getting lost on the way, and I have no cell phone service in this country to call for directions, and I don't speak the local language. Also I had a late lunch and wasn't very hungry.

this is the easiest and least awkward social situation i've ever read about.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 19, 2014, 03:34:13 PM
On a work trip in a foreign country with three women. We had one day off, split off after lunch to do our own thing - girls were getting a massage with a woman who works in the local (foreign) office - and we had plans to meet for dinner at 6. At about 5:45, I get an email from the local person saying, "Hey, we're having dinner at this place by my house. You can take a 30 minute cab to get here if you want!" I look up the restaurant on tripadvisor and the first review mentions cabs getting lost on the way, and I have no cell phone service in this country to call for directions, and I don't speak the local language. Also I had a late lunch and wasn't very hungry.

this is the easiest and least awkward social situation i've ever read about.

Well I lead a very low-stress/low-awkwardness life. I handled it quite well, but I wanted to hear how chings would respond.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 03:36:17 PM
Here's a situation I was in recently:

On a work trip in a foreign country with three women. We had one day off, split off after lunch to do our own thing - girls were getting a massage with a woman who works in the local (foreign) office - and we had plans to meet for dinner at 6. At about 5:45, I get an email from the local person saying, "Hey, we're having dinner at this place by my house. You can take a 30 minute cab to get here if you want!" I look up the restaurant on tripadvisor and the first review mentions cabs getting lost on the way, and I have no cell phone service in this country to call for directions, and I don't speak the local language. Also I had a late lunch and wasn't very hungry.

How does chingon act in this situation?
If you want to meet them
1) Use Google Maps (or whatevs) to get directions, find closest major landmark as a backup.  Write down the name + address on four pieces of paper in both English and the native language (if non-latin alphabet draw the characters as best you can).   Give paper to cab driver and mention its near landmark X.

If you don't want to meet them
2) Say you already found a place you like and are getting drinks already.  Will talk to them tomorrow.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on May 19, 2014, 03:46:36 PM
"Cab got lost.  Said eff it and found something close to hotel.  "
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep on May 19, 2014, 03:47:03 PM
farting on an elevator
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on May 19, 2014, 03:53:44 PM
"Cab got lost.  Said eff it and found something close to hotel.  "

"i've been kidnapped, I need $1000"
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on May 19, 2014, 04:10:07 PM
you line up for a cyber high five and get left hangin'  :dubious:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 04:11:26 PM
farting on an elevator
You don't do it in the first place.  Do you also need me to tell you not to crap in your hand and smear it all over your office walls either?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 19, 2014, 04:12:10 PM
you line up for a cyber high five and get left hangin'  :dubious:
Take it in stride and think about what you might have done to deserve the shunning.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: kim carnes on May 19, 2014, 08:13:24 PM
related:

my dad will rip out a fart in front of anyone at anytime. I think it's subconscious at this point what do I do? do I ignore it? apologize on his behalf privately later? join in with my own farts to maybe inflate the fart shock market to the point of collapse?
You should give a "knowing look" (aka the Jim from The Office look) to the others.  If you cannot establish eye contact then you should give a "HA HA" so people look at you then give the "look".

:lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: _33 on May 19, 2014, 08:16:59 PM
You are eating lunch with someone and they laugh and a little piece of food goes out of their mouth onto your arm.
How big of a piece and what kind of food?

Very small piece, like an ant.  I think maybe part of a crouton.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 19, 2014, 09:48:33 PM
your wife works with someone and is friends with them.  this co-worker/friend's kids are terribly behaved.

(e.g.) her children (aged 1yr 8mos and 5yr have bitten/scratched other children on multiple occasions) and when this comes up, the co-worker will get defensive, shift blame or otherwise not address the issue or even admit it is an issue.

much evidence points to her and her husband displaying poor parenting skills/decision making.

1)  What steps should a spouse take to support/encourage their partner in a delicate work/friend/terrible parent situation?

2)  How should a couple go about planning their future interactions (short-mid-long-term) with terrible parents that socially are ok (but have their quirks) for adults.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: bones129 on May 19, 2014, 09:51:47 PM
You are eating lunch with someone and they laugh and a little piece of food goes out of their mouth onto your arm.

hurry and eat it before they try to take it back

 :sdeek:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 20, 2014, 08:47:09 AM
You are eating lunch with someone and they laugh and a little piece of food goes out of their mouth onto your arm.
How big of a piece and what kind of food?

Very small piece, like an ant.  I think maybe part of a crouton.
Wait for five seconds, then brush off with napkin. Never break eye-contact.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 20, 2014, 08:54:28 AM
your wife works with someone and is friends with them.  this co-worker/friend's kids are terribly behaved.

(e.g.) her children (aged 1yr 8mos and 5yr have bitten/scratched other children on multiple occasions) and when this comes up, the co-worker will get defensive, shift blame or otherwise not address the issue or even admit it is an issue.

much evidence points to her and her husband displaying poor parenting skills/decision making.

1)  What steps should a spouse take to support/encourage their partner in a delicate work/friend/terrible parent situation?

2)  How should a couple go about planning their future interactions (short-mid-long-term) with terrible parents that socially are ok (but have their quirks) for adults.
1) Spouse should make up a story regarding a cousin of yours who also has troublesome children.  An amusing yet slightly disturbing anecdote works best.  Then your spouse tells how the situation was solved (i.e. how he/she thinks these behavior issues should be corrected) and that it was surprisingly effective.  Important to keep it light (yet still slightly disturbing).

2) Establish a no-kid ground rule, plan on grown up date nights together.  If they need to bring children something unfortunately will always come up. For more specific scenarios please let me know.
2)
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on May 20, 2014, 10:22:12 AM
Avoid #1, execute #2, IMO.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 20, 2014, 11:26:26 AM
Yes, lying creates new potential awkward situations.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 20, 2014, 11:39:35 AM
Any advice on continuing/not continuing to have this relationship continue in 3 ways (same day care, same employer, friendship)?  I think eliminating the same daycare will resolve most of the tension spilling in to the other two.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 20, 2014, 12:14:06 PM
Any advice on continuing/not continuing to have this relationship continue in 3 ways (same day care, same employer, friendship)?  I think eliminating the same daycare will resolve most of the tension spilling in to the other two.

Complain to the day care ask that they talk to the parents. Explain you don't want to be mentioned because you'd like to remain friends. If they can't/won't address the issue, you need a new day care.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on May 20, 2014, 12:15:31 PM
Just brush off kid related invites for a while.  they will either get the pic or stop asking because you always say no and their kid will find an alternate to play with anyway.  At that point, either the relationship gets weird or it doesn't. 

If it is not their first kid, just tell them that the two kids don't get along well and they prob will understand.  If it's their first, they won't understand and it will be weird coworker/ awkward friends time.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on May 20, 2014, 12:16:54 PM
If you change daycare to salvage a relationship you should either be:
a. really good friends with them
 or
b. not overly happy with your current daycare and have a better one you already wouldn't mind being in.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 20, 2014, 12:17:30 PM
Just brush off kid related invites for a while.  they will either get the pic or stop asking because you always say no and their kid will find an alternate to play with anyway.  At that point, either the relationship gets weird or it doesn't. 

If it is not their first kid, just tell them that the two kids don't get along well and they prob will understand.  If it's their first, they won't understand and it will be weird coworker/ awkward friends time.

I wonder, does no one watch the kids interact they get together? I mean a two year old probably shouldn't be around another two year old and a five year old unsupervised.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on May 20, 2014, 12:20:34 PM
Any advice on continuing/not continuing to have this relationship continue in 3 ways (same day care, same employer, friendship)?  I think eliminating the same daycare will resolve most of the tension spilling in to the other two.

Call SRS.  Pretty sure you can do it anonymously from what I remember about gE trying to resolve nicname's juggalo problem.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 20, 2014, 12:31:58 PM
Just brush off kid related invites for a while.  they will either get the pic or stop asking because you always say no and their kid will find an alternate to play with anyway.  At that point, either the relationship gets weird or it doesn't. 

If it is not their first kid, just tell them that the two kids don't get along well and they prob will understand.  If it's their first, they won't understand and it will be weird coworker/ awkward friends time.

I wonder, does no one watch the kids interact they get together? I mean a two year old probably shouldn't be around another two year old and a five year old unsupervised.

Did I mention the daycare was super cheap?  That should probably be mentioned.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on May 20, 2014, 12:36:01 PM
Just brush off kid related invites for a while.  they will either get the pic or stop asking because you always say no and their kid will find an alternate to play with anyway.  At that point, either the relationship gets weird or it doesn't. 

If it is not their first kid, just tell them that the two kids don't get along well and they prob will understand.  If it's their first, they won't understand and it will be weird coworker/ awkward friends time.

I wonder, does no one watch the kids interact they get together? I mean a two year old probably shouldn't be around another two year old and a five year old unsupervised.

Did I mention the daycare was super cheap?  That should probably be mentioned.

Probably also answers Mich's question about someone watching two 2 y/o's.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 20, 2014, 12:38:41 PM
Yeah. Also, is it just your kk's kid and their kids at the "day care"?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 20, 2014, 12:40:41 PM
Just brush off kid related invites for a while.  they will either get the pic or stop asking because you always say no and their kid will find an alternate to play with anyway.  At that point, either the relationship gets weird or it doesn't. 

If it is not their first kid, just tell them that the two kids don't get along well and they prob will understand.  If it's their first, they won't understand and it will be weird coworker/ awkward friends time.

I wonder, does no one watch the kids interact they get together? I mean a two year old probably shouldn't be around another two year old and a five year old unsupervised.

Did I mention the daycare was super cheap?  That should probably be mentioned.

Probably also answers Mich's question about someone watching two 2 y/o's.

It is an in-home day care with one grandma and like 7 kids.  She is very nice, the older kids (5, 6) mostly help with the younger kids and things work out really well most of the time.  It is also extremely affordable.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 20, 2014, 12:41:40 PM
ok, option 3 is teach your son to box.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on May 20, 2014, 12:42:58 PM
Just brush off kid related invites for a while.  they will either get the pic or stop asking because you always say no and their kid will find an alternate to play with anyway.  At that point, either the relationship gets weird or it doesn't. 

If it is not their first kid, just tell them that the two kids don't get along well and they prob will understand.  If it's their first, they won't understand and it will be weird coworker/ awkward friends time.

I wonder, does no one watch the kids interact they get together? I mean a two year old probably shouldn't be around another two year old and a five year old unsupervised.

Did I mention the daycare was super cheap?  That should probably be mentioned.

Probably also answers Mich's question about someone watching two 2 y/o's.

It is an in-home day care with one grandma and like 7 kids.  She is very nice, the older kids (5, 6) mostly help with the younger kids and things work out really well most of the time.  It is also extremely affordable.
KatKid, do not lie to your brother/sister (in-law?) that you work with. Let them know what their kids are doing to your kids at your Mother's (in-law?) house during the day. Sweeping this under the rug is not going to end well for the family relationships.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on May 20, 2014, 12:43:36 PM
Option #4: get the other kid kicked out of daycare.

Maybe plant some coke on the other ppl's kid in an obvious manner.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on May 20, 2014, 12:53:52 PM
Yes, lying creates new potential awkward situations.
Not if done well.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Skipper44 on May 20, 2014, 01:40:01 PM
ok, option 3 is teach your son to box.
remember body blows only - landing face shots will only get him in trouble
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on May 20, 2014, 01:45:50 PM
Just brush off kid related invites for a while.  they will either get the pic or stop asking because you always say no and their kid will find an alternate to play with anyway.  At that point, either the relationship gets weird or it doesn't. 

If it is not their first kid, just tell them that the two kids don't get along well and they prob will understand.  If it's their first, they won't understand and it will be weird coworker/ awkward friends time.

I wonder, does no one watch the kids interact they get together? I mean a two year old probably shouldn't be around another two year old and a five year old unsupervised.

Did I mention the daycare was super cheap?  That should probably be mentioned.

Probably also answers Mich's question about someone watching two 2 y/o's.

It is an in-home day care with one grandma and like 7 kids.  She is very nice, the older kids (5, 6) mostly help with the younger kids and things work out really well most of the time.  It is also extremely affordable.

in home daycare is pretty ghetto.  Ditch this and spring for the good stuff.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Skipper44 on May 20, 2014, 01:54:59 PM
I would think finding a cheap nanny in MHK would be super easy
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 20, 2014, 02:07:49 PM
Just brush off kid related invites for a while.  they will either get the pic or stop asking because you always say no and their kid will find an alternate to play with anyway.  At that point, either the relationship gets weird or it doesn't. 

If it is not their first kid, just tell them that the two kids don't get along well and they prob will understand.  If it's their first, they won't understand and it will be weird coworker/ awkward friends time.

I wonder, does no one watch the kids interact they get together? I mean a two year old probably shouldn't be around another two year old and a five year old unsupervised.

Did I mention the daycare was super cheap?  That should probably be mentioned.

Probably also answers Mich's question about someone watching two 2 y/o's.

It is an in-home day care with one grandma and like 7 kids.  She is very nice, the older kids (5, 6) mostly help with the younger kids and things work out really well most of the time.  It is also extremely affordable.

in home daycare is pretty ghetto.  Ditch this and spring for the good stuff.

But cheap.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 20, 2014, 04:41:15 PM
Giving your wife's friend a ride (without your wife present) because she just had a boob job and can't drive herself. How should then conversation go?

 Obviously depends on the friend, I guess.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 20, 2014, 04:50:09 PM
Giving your wife's friend a ride (without your wife present) because she just had a boob job and can't drive herself. How should then conversation go?

 Obviously depends on the friend, I guess.

real anecdote!? did your wife ask you or did she ask your without going through your wife
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: WillieWatanabe on May 20, 2014, 04:54:36 PM
You are eating lunch with someone and they laugh and a little piece of food goes out of their mouth onto your arm.
How big of a piece and what kind of food?

Very small piece, like an ant.  I think maybe part of a crouton.
Wait for five seconds, then brush off with napkin. Never break eye-contact.

:|
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on May 20, 2014, 04:56:23 PM
Giving your wife's friend a ride (without your wife present) because she just had a boob job and can't drive herself. How should then conversation go?

 Obviously depends on the friend, I guess.

I have to assume you are like 4th or 5th down the list of ppl asked, right?  (Mom, Dad, her husband, your wife, etc)
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 20, 2014, 04:56:55 PM
what if someone doesnt break eye contact with you for five seconds or more?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on May 20, 2014, 04:58:06 PM
just pretend it's any other routine surgery?  i wouldn't talk to some dude at work about his tonsils and adenoids if i had to give him a ride home
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 20, 2014, 05:00:39 PM
Giving your wife's friend a ride (without your wife present) because she just had a boob job and can't drive herself. How should then conversation go?

 Obviously depends on the friend, I guess.

real anecdote!? did your wife ask you or did she ask your without going through your wife

What happened is she texted my wife asking for a ride to school to pick up her kids (same school as our kids). Wife couldn't go so she offered me up instead. Friend said she needed fresh air and exercise instead, probably to avoid an awkward situation. Problem solved!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 21, 2014, 05:34:02 AM
My wife and I sometimes go out on dates with a couple that will invite us to dinner but then will proceed to not want to order actual food.  They just want to split apps. 

Hypothetically I would just be losing weight until I look like them but I basically just come home and eat something after dinner.  Also, I mean my wife is in her third trimester she probably is hungry too!

Follow up, I think this could be shame yourself too.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: pissclams on May 21, 2014, 07:41:31 AM
you're allowing yourself to be trampled on kat kid.  order food and tell them to wipe their asses with their appetizer sharing crap.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 21, 2014, 09:26:58 AM
Maybe on the next invite you should ask if they are planning on dinner or just snacks.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on May 21, 2014, 09:27:49 AM
Maybe on the next invite you should ask if they are planning on dinner or just snacks.

PowerBar on your way to the restaurant.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on May 21, 2014, 09:29:14 AM
order what you want. and if you want to eat half their apps, do that too
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 21, 2014, 09:32:50 AM
My wife always wants to share with me.  I will make a stand next time tho guys.  Thank you.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on May 21, 2014, 09:34:56 AM
Yeah, these folks have established themselves as the Alphas of the friendship.  time to take that crap back
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 21, 2014, 09:43:35 AM
Yeah, these folks have established themselves as the Alphas of the friendship.  time to take that crap back

I ordered a bottle of wine at dinner.  They are food alphas only.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on May 21, 2014, 10:26:33 AM
Yeah, these folks have established themselves as the Alphas of the friendship.  time to take that crap back

I ordered a bottle of wine at dinner with appetizers.  They are food alphas only.
FYP

"Oh please, go ahead and order the appetizers. You know what we like." (Wait until they are done ordering the appetizers..) look at the waiter and say, "and becasue I am so hungry, I am going to go ahead and order the ribeye, medium rare with a baked potato all the way and house dressing on the salad." Then, look at your friends and say, "I am starved, these appetizers just aren't going to cut it this evening." Then look back at the waiter and say, "Which bold flavored cabernet do you recommend that would compliment my dinner and my ravenous appetitie?" Look back at your friends and chuckle pleasently.

Alpha RESTORED. Case CLOSED.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mr Bread on May 21, 2014, 10:30:34 AM
Chuckle pleasantly made me chuckle pleasantly. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Stevesie60 on May 21, 2014, 10:36:09 AM
Sounds like you should only go to Bourbon & Baker with this couple.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Skipper44 on May 21, 2014, 11:20:35 AM
These are more your wife's friends, aren't they?  I bet they want separate checks or an IRS level audit of the bill instead of each couple throwing down a card splitting it like adults.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on May 21, 2014, 07:17:39 PM
These are more your wife's friends, aren't they?  I bet they want separate checks or an IRS level audit of the bill instead of each couple throwing down a card splitting it like adults.

wat
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 21, 2014, 07:26:26 PM
These are more your wife's friends, aren't they?  I bet they want separate checks or an IRS level audit of the bill instead of each couple throwing down a card splitting it like adults.

they aren't bad about that.  it is a relatively minor thing (grand scheme) and part of it is my awkwardness of not just ordering what I want.  CASE CLOSED.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on May 21, 2014, 10:43:48 PM
Introducing your Internet friends to non Internet friends
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: bones129 on May 21, 2014, 10:52:00 PM
order what you want. and if you want to eat half their apps, do that too

 :thumbs:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Phil Titola on May 22, 2014, 09:23:03 AM
Introducing your Internet friends to non Internet friends

To add onto that, meeting other Internet Bros for the first time. "hi I'm chunkylover69"  seems like the wrong way to do it.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on May 22, 2014, 09:59:17 AM
Introducing your Internet friends to non Internet friends

To add onto that, meeting other Internet Bros for the first time. "hi I'm chunkylover69"  seems like the wrong way to do it.
"Whacky?"
"Dobber?"
:hug: and :highfive:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on May 22, 2014, 10:37:28 AM
Introducing your Internet friends to non Internet friends

To add onto that, meeting other Internet Bros for the first time. "hi I'm chunkylover69"  seems like the wrong way to do it.
"Whacky?"
"Dobber?"
:hug: and :highfive:

That's meeting other internet friend, not introducing internet people to non-internet people
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on May 22, 2014, 10:44:37 AM
Introducing your Internet friends to non Internet friends

To add onto that, meeting other Internet Bros for the first time. "hi I'm chunkylover69"  seems like the wrong way to do it.
"Whacky?"
"Dobber?"
:hug: and :highfive:

That's meeting other internet friend, not introducing internet people to non-internet people
The next day: "Hey everybody, here are some crazy K-State fans I met at the bars in Austin last night. They are gonna hang out with us for a while and pound some brews/gin and eat some food."

Everybody else: "Cool."
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Daddy Claxton on May 23, 2014, 10:54:47 AM
I have 3 step brothers. All pretty good guys, but my mom married their dad after we were all grown so we're basically acquaintances that get along fine. 2 of them have children graduating from high school. One kid sent me an invitation-I didn't go but sent a card with a gift card in it. The other kid did not send an invite.

Do I need to get the other kid a similar gift because I gave a gift to his cousin, or am I excused because no invitation?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on May 23, 2014, 10:58:59 AM
I have 3 step brothers. All pretty good guys, but my mom married their dad after we were all grown so we're basically acquaintances that get along fine. 2 of them have children graduating from high school. One kid sent me an invitation-I didn't go but sent a card with a gift card in it. The other kid did not send an invite.

Do I need to get the other kid a similar gift because I gave a gift to his cousin, or am I excused because no invitation?

Yeah, slapping a second gift card in an envelope is an awful lot of work so I definitely wouldn't bother.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on May 23, 2014, 10:59:25 AM
I have 3 step brothers. All pretty good guys, but my mom married their dad after we were all grown so we're basically acquaintances that get along fine. 2 of them have children graduating from high school. One kid sent me an invitation-I didn't go but sent a card with a gift card in it. The other kid did not send an invite.

Do I need to get the other kid a similar gift because I gave a gift to his cousin, or am I excused because no invitation?
Family. Send a card/gift.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Bloodfart on May 23, 2014, 11:20:06 AM
Introducing your Internet friends to non Internet friends

To add onto that, meeting other Internet Bros for the first time. "hi I'm chunkylover69"  seems like the wrong way to do it.
"Whacky?"
"Dobber?"
:hug: and :highfive:

Quote from: JohnnyWichita at pizza place for lunch
So you're bloodfart.
Hey lil bro this is BLOODFART.
Hey Cats2Win this is BLOODFART. 

Your voice carries well @JohnnyWichita.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on May 23, 2014, 11:25:29 AM
:lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on May 23, 2014, 09:55:41 PM
You hand the waitress a fiver for a 3.50 drink and she doesn't even attempt to give you change. Also this is your buds lady friend.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on May 23, 2014, 09:57:30 PM
Also that same buds lady friend /waitress once accused you of being an alcoholic (last week hypothetically)
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: EllRobersonisInnocent on May 23, 2014, 11:21:02 PM
jfc, I'll give you 6 rough ridin' quarters tomorrow

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Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on May 23, 2014, 11:27:38 PM
jfc, I'll give you 6 rough ridin' quarters tomorrow

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Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Katpappy on May 23, 2014, 11:33:04 PM
jfc, I'll give you 6 rough ridin' quarters tomorrow

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Does this have anything to do with putting buns between your penis.  :sdeek:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on May 30, 2014, 12:24:55 PM
Chings, how should someone deal with the peeling phase of a sunburn, specifically the arms
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: KSUblumpkin on May 30, 2014, 04:55:32 PM
Chings, someone I know at work has pit stains only underneath one arm.  How do I politely tell him that is effed up?

Love, Blumperz.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on June 02, 2014, 10:17:35 AM
Chings, someone I know at work has pit stains only underneath one arm.  How do I politely tell him that is effed up?

Love, Blumperz.

You should stand on whichever side has the pit stain and say something like, "Man, is it hot on this side of the room or what?"
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: KSUblumpkin on June 02, 2014, 03:59:08 PM
Chings, someone I know at work has pit stains only underneath one arm.  How do I politely tell him that is effed up?

Love, Blumperz.

You should stand on whichever side has the pit stain and say something like, "Man, is it hot on this side of the room or what?"

This could work.  I could follow it up with a return visit to the non sweat stain pit side and say: "Man, it is super cool on this side of the room.  Sheesh" or is this too obvi?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on June 02, 2014, 04:02:17 PM
Chings, someone I know at work has pit stains only underneath one arm.  How do I politely tell him that is effed up?

Love, Blumperz.

You should stand on whichever side has the pit stain and say something like, "Man, is it hot on this side of the room or what?"

This could work.  I could follow it up with a return visit to the non sweat stain pit side and say: "Man, it is super cool on this side of the room.  Sheesh" or is this too obvi?

 :thumbs:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on June 02, 2014, 04:05:42 PM
Chings, how should someone deal with the peeling phase of a sunburn, specifically the arms
Use proper lotions and keep yourself tidy (make frequent trips to the restroom to "clean house"). 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on June 02, 2014, 04:07:37 PM
Chings, someone I know at work has pit stains only underneath one arm.  How do I politely tell him that is effed up?

Love, Blumperz.
Organize photos (and the poses) that expose this strange nature and make sure he sees them.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: KSUblumpkin on June 02, 2014, 04:14:29 PM
Chings, someone I know at work has pit stains only underneath one arm.  How do I politely tell him that is effed up?

Love, Blumperz.
Organize photos (and the poses) that expose this strange nature and make sure he sees them.

I like it!  I could make a scrap book and be all "crafty".  I'll snap some hot pics and browse Pinterest for ideas.  Thanks Chings!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on June 02, 2014, 04:17:18 PM
Blumpz, I am betting that it is the arm that he also holds his phone to his ear/head/face with and that he holds it in a position that makes that pit sweat.  Tell him a story about some badass headset you got or something.  No more holding long convos to his face causing him to sweat.  It will help with neck and shoulder pain too making him more pleasant(assuming a guy that sweats profusely in one pit is unpleasant).
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Emo EMAW on June 02, 2014, 04:31:01 PM
Ok I wasn't there but if I was what should I have done?

In-laws/family are out to dinner at a very famous Kansas landmark restaurant which calls itself a hotel even though you can't stay there.

The waitress knows the crazy old grandma, says hi.  Someone at the table says something like "oh that's nice you two know eachother" and crazy grandma says "ya and she's a real bitch."  Loud enough that people at other tables heard/gasped.  What do you do? 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on June 02, 2014, 04:34:04 PM
was your gma just joshing or does she really hate that bitch?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Emo EMAW on June 02, 2014, 04:37:57 PM
Wasn't my gma, but she wasn't joshing.  She's a cruel, mean spirited, evil old bag. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on June 02, 2014, 04:38:42 PM
Wasn't my gma, but she wasn't joshing.  She's a cruel, mean spirited, evil old bag.

in that case i would push her over backwards in her chair
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on June 02, 2014, 04:39:18 PM
Wasn't my gma, but she wasn't joshing.  She's a cruel, mean spirited, evil old bag.

in that case i would push her over backwards in her chair

or if she is wheelchair bound, i would apologize to everyone and roll her into the bathroom and leave her there
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Emo EMAW on June 02, 2014, 04:43:56 PM
I believe the move was to shift attention, and then later privately apologize to the waitress. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: cfbandyman on June 02, 2014, 04:45:00 PM
Ok I wasn't there but if I was what should I have done?

In-laws/family are out to dinner at a very famous Kansas landmark restaurant which calls itself a hotel even though you can't stay there.

The waitress knows the crazy old grandma, says hi.  Someone at the table says something like "oh that's nice you two know eachother" and crazy grandma says "ya and she's a real bitch."  Loud enough that people at other tables heard/gasped.  What do you do?

 :love:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Asteriskhead on June 02, 2014, 06:19:54 PM
Ok I wasn't there but if I was what should I have done?

In-laws/family are out to dinner at a very famous Kansas landmark restaurant which calls itself a hotel even though you can't stay there.

The waitress knows the crazy old grandma, says hi.  Someone at the table says something like "oh that's nice you two know eachother" and crazy grandma says "ya and she's a real bitch."  Loud enough that people at other tables heard/gasped.  What do you do?

 :love:

that place is pud city. pudville hotel is what they should call it.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on June 02, 2014, 06:41:43 PM
this wouldn't have happened at mr k's
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: wetwillie on June 02, 2014, 06:50:39 PM
this wouldn't have happened at mr k's

Or Kirby House(RIP)
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on June 02, 2014, 06:52:27 PM
fam has taken me to bville hotel for like every birthday the last 10 years or so and just can't break it to them that I don't like it (awkward social situation?)
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slucat on June 04, 2014, 10:09:57 AM
I have a canadian friend who is/was known as a bit of a lush, and there are several family events coming up, where her lack of indulging in booze will be noted. She is abstaining from drinking due to expecting baby no.2, however it is quite early and doesn't want to announce anything for a few more weeks. This is an awkward social situation for my canadian friend, as only her spouse and I know.  How should she handle it?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on June 04, 2014, 10:13:15 AM
lent!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: dmartin on June 04, 2014, 10:13:43 AM
I have a canadian friend who is/was known as a bit of a lush, and there are several family events coming up, where her lack of indulging in booze will be noted. She is abstaining from drinking due to expecting baby no.2, however it is quite early and doesn't want to announce anything for a few more weeks. This is an awkward social situation for my canadian friend, as only her spouse and I know.  How should she handle it?

well according to sitcom tradition, her spouse should secretly drink every drink she's offered. Hilarity should ensue.

In real life, maybe some excuse involving a medication would explain the lack of participation.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on June 04, 2014, 10:15:50 AM
If your CF's family drinks beer, carry around a glass of apple juice.
If your CF's family drinks mixed drinks, carry around a Dr. Pepper.

or, your CF can say she's sick.

or, last possibility I have for your CF, have your CF's spouse challenge her to not drink alcohol for 60 days. Then, when people ask her why she isn't drinking, she can say that she accepted a challenge to not drink for 60 days (but don't tell them who made the challenge, becasue then they would shame your CF's spouse and make him not drink, too, and that is not necessary!). Maybe even make a bet out of it!

PS. Congrats to your CF!

PSS. How does you CF feel about you telling an entire message board about this pregnancy?!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on June 04, 2014, 10:21:57 AM
Get a fake ankle monitor and tell them you are on some probation or something and could be called for a random test at any moment.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Asteriskhead on June 04, 2014, 10:56:20 AM
your canadian friend is on antibiotics for a sinus infection. case closed.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on June 04, 2014, 11:16:12 AM
your canadian friend is on antibiotics for a sinus infection. case closed.
"Oh man. You gotta have a couple of beers! The meds make it easier to get a buzz!"
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dr Rick Daris on June 04, 2014, 11:31:25 AM
yeah. i'd say you're sick or whatever and just nurse a drink or two.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Skipper44 on June 04, 2014, 11:49:00 AM
I may be wrong, but isn't avoiding alcohol something women do when they are trying to get prego?  Maybe just tell folks that unless you are trying to avoid the subject completely.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on June 04, 2014, 11:57:41 AM
If your CF's family drinks beer, carry around a glass of apple juice.
If your CF's family drinks mixed drinks, carry around a Dr. Pepper.

or, your CF can say she's sick.

or, last possibility I have for your CF, have your CF's spouse challenge her to not drink alcohol for 60 days. Then, when people ask her why she isn't drinking, she can say that she accepted a challenge to not drink for 60 days (but don't tell them who made the challenge, becasue then they would shame your CF's spouse and make him not drink, too, and that is not necessary!). Maybe even make a bet out of it!

PS. Congrats to your CF!

PSS. How does you CF feel about you telling an entire message board about this pregnancy?!

Yeah, I was going to say drink something that could be mistaken for an alcoholic beverage.

Or maybe just say that you are still regretting that binger from a couple of days ago and you swore off alcohol for a few days.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Stevesie60 on June 04, 2014, 12:03:50 PM
Your CF should act super drunk when they show up so no one offers her a drink. Boom, situation avoided.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep on June 04, 2014, 12:07:05 PM
is your CFs mother or mother in law going to be at these family events? if so, dont waste your time because that will be the first thing they ask/assume/gossip about.

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slucat on June 04, 2014, 12:10:40 PM
 
is your CFs mother or mother in law going to be at these family events? if so, dont waste your time because that will be the first thing they ask/assume/gossip about.

yes,  this will be the hard pill for my Canadian friend to swallow.  The mom is visiting from out of province.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep on June 04, 2014, 12:13:14 PM
is your CFs mother or mother in law going to be at these family events? if so, dont waste your time because that will be the first thing they ask/assume/gossip about.

yes,  this will be the hard pill for my Canadian friend to swallow.  The mom is visiting from out of province.

sounds like your canadian friend better get ready to spill the beans. she will start showing a lot sooner anyways, so its not like this secret is going to be a secret for much longer anyways.

congrats to your canadian friend, btw.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on June 04, 2014, 12:33:15 PM
I have a canadian friend who is/was known as a bit of a lush, and there are several family events coming up, where her lack of indulging in booze will be noted. She is abstaining from drinking due to expecting baby no.2, however it is quite early and doesn't want to announce anything for a few more weeks. This is an awkward social situation for my canadian friend, as only her spouse and I know.  How should she handle it?
OK, gargle with a strong smelling booze you know will be there (gin is best for this I would say) then spit it out also pat some lightly on your face and neck (like aftershave).  Have spouse always get you a drink and make sure its a gin and tonic like thing.  No one will know the difference.  As needed (every hour or so maybe) repeat the gargle process in the bathroom.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on June 04, 2014, 12:36:40 PM
Act super mumped up is the right answer
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on June 04, 2014, 12:38:00 PM
just show up high and tell people you don't like to combo
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on June 04, 2014, 12:38:40 PM
you could tell everyone you are still super hungover from last night
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on June 04, 2014, 12:40:35 PM
Leaving a job for a (much) better job after only being there 2.5 weeks, what do I say to the boss to not look like a dick
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Asteriskhead on June 04, 2014, 12:54:08 PM
Leaving a job for a (much) better job after only being there 2.5 weeks, what do I say to the boss to not look like a dick

"Hey, sorry. I was offered a better gig."
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on June 04, 2014, 12:57:39 PM
Say you are going to rehab
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on June 04, 2014, 01:01:09 PM
Say you are going to rehab
Metalhead or SLU's CF? :lol: :lol:

BOTH!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on June 04, 2014, 01:26:43 PM
Leaving a job for a (much) better job after only being there 2.5 weeks, what do I say to the boss to not look like a dick
Gotta agree with: "I have been offered a better position, and it would hurt my career not to take it."  If the boss can't understand that you should be glad you're are not working for them.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on June 04, 2014, 01:27:50 PM
you could always give him a chance to beat the other offer !
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Asteriskhead on June 04, 2014, 01:30:30 PM
Say you are going to rehab
Metalhead or SLU's CF? :lol: :lol:

BOTH!

Rehab is for quitters. Do I seem like a quitter to you, slobber?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on June 04, 2014, 02:14:59 PM
Say you are going to rehab
Metalhead or SLU's CF? :lol: :lol:

BOTH!

Rehab is for quitters. Do I seem like a quitter to you, slobber?
:attitude:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on June 04, 2014, 06:11:53 PM
you could always give him a chance to beat the other offer !

there is pretty much zero chance of that.  without getting too personal, the current job i kind of "settled" for, and the new one will almost double in pay.

anyway, i told him today and he was agitated, but whatevs
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: sys on June 04, 2014, 11:18:06 PM
congratulations, seven.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Institutional Control on June 10, 2014, 10:50:10 AM
Woman at work is always wearing low cut blouses. I feel uncomfortable talking to her because I'm afraid I'm going to stare at her breasts.  Should I be ashamed of staring?  She wants me to stare, right? 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on June 10, 2014, 10:51:12 AM
congratulations, seven.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: meow meow on June 10, 2014, 10:55:49 AM
Woman at work is always wearing low cut blouses. I feel uncomfortable talking to her because I'm afraid I'm going to stare at her breasts.  Should I be ashamed of staring?  She wants me to stare, right?

she will be offended if you don't stare
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on June 10, 2014, 11:36:31 AM
Woman at work is always wearing low cut blouses. I feel uncomfortable talking to her because I'm afraid I'm going to stare at her breasts.  Should I be ashamed of staring?  She wants me to stare, right?

What is her name? When you address her say something like, "Hi there Titties, I mean Tina."
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on June 10, 2014, 11:39:12 AM
Woman at work is always wearing low cut blouses. I feel uncomfortable talking to her because I'm afraid I'm going to stare at her breasts.  Should I be ashamed of staring?  She wants me to stare, right? 
Quit being a creepy person. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Institutional Control on June 10, 2014, 12:35:11 PM
Woman at work is always wearing low cut blouses. I feel uncomfortable talking to her because I'm afraid I'm going to stare at her breasts.  Should I be ashamed of staring?  She wants me to stare, right? 
Quit being a creepy person.
At least I feel bad about being creepy. That's something, right?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on December 28, 2014, 11:30:05 PM
Dinner tomorrow with another family whose husband doesn't drink. He used to, but just doesn't now. I'll probably be drinking because the wife still drinks. Do you ask why the person doesn't drink? Try to find out why he doesn't drink through a third party? Just ignore it?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on December 28, 2014, 11:31:08 PM
why does it matter?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on December 28, 2014, 11:31:53 PM
ignore it unless he brings it up, this one is pretty simple
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on December 29, 2014, 01:09:58 AM
why does it matter?
it doesn't, really
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on December 29, 2014, 01:12:27 AM
I guess I just recently had a thing where I suggested to a guy that we go to the Trappist in Oakland to drink some beers and I later in the conversation found out that he didn't drink beer at all and later from another person I found out he used to be a problem drinker and I felt bad and I guess I should just avoid the discussion altogether.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: deputy dawg on December 29, 2014, 08:27:00 AM
Woman at work is always wearing low cut blouses. I feel uncomfortable talking to her because I'm afraid I'm going to stare at her breasts.  Should I be ashamed of staring?  She wants me to stare, right?

She doesn't want you to stare, but does want you to be troubled by the dilemma.  Eyes above her chin level, and you'll do fine. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CHONGS on December 29, 2014, 09:07:52 AM
Dinner tomorrow with another family whose husband doesn't drink. He used to, but just doesn't now. I'll probably be drinking because the wife still drinks. Do you ask why the person doesn't drink? Try to find out why he doesn't drink through a third party? Just ignore it?
what not to do:
Offer to buy drinks for the whole table, but then point at the guy who no longer drinks and say loudly, "Except this guy, he apparently has a problem.  Give him another goddamn glass of water with lemon".  Afterward, pointedly look around the restaurant to see how much attention you brought.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on December 29, 2014, 09:56:26 AM
If he isn't drinking assume its because he either killed someone in a drunk driving accident or beats his wife when drunk and she made him stop
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 05, 2015, 09:48:45 PM
Update: they really pushed the liquor on me it was fine.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 05, 2015, 09:56:48 PM
New one: I live on a large lot with four units on it, one of which is occupied by the owners (our landlords). All the units pay for their own trash/recycling service.

Since it's California, we have these giant compost bins for, you know, compostable items like food scraps and yard waste.

Well, every now and then after trash day, I'd get our bins and notice our green bin was missing. Eventually it would show up and I suspected a neighbor was grabbing ours by mistake or something. So we wrote our apartment number on all our bins just in case this was what happened or at least it would hopefully make them less inclined to take ours on purpose.

Last week, our green bin was missing. Our landlords had a lot of yard work done (only around their house). Today I took out the trash, and sure enough, our compost bin was there full of yard waste.

Now, our landlords are for the most part very nice people, but I think it's kind of bullshit that they're using a service that I paid for with no benefit to me and without consulting me. It's really not much money, but it can be a pain in the ass figuring out what to do with a week of food scraps that normally went in the bin. And it's really disrespectful. Do I confront the landlords about it? How?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 05, 2015, 10:00:43 PM
Not worth it imo
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 05, 2015, 10:01:17 PM
Dump your crap in their bin
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on January 05, 2015, 10:01:28 PM
New one: I live on a large lot with four units on it, one of which is occupied by the owners (our landlords). All the units pay for their own trash/recycling service.

Since it's California, we have these giant compost bins for, you know, compostable items like food scraps and yard waste.

Well, every now and then after trash day, I'd get our bins and notice our green bin was missing. Eventually it would show up and I suspected a neighbor was grabbing ours by mistake or something. So we wrote our apartment number on all our bins just in case this was what happened or at least it would hopefully make them less inclined to take ours on purpose.

Last week, our green bin was missing. Our landlords had a lot of yard work done (only around their house). Today I took out the trash, and sure enough, our compost bin was there full of yard waste.

Now, our landlords are for the most part very nice people, but I think it's kind of bullshit that they're using a service that I paid for with no benefit to me and without consulting me. It's really not much money, but it can be a pain in the ass figuring out what to do with a week of food scraps that normally went in the bin. And it's really disrespectful. Do I confront the landlords about it? How?

How long have we toiled under the rule of the landed gentry?  Well, this peasant will take it no longer!  I reclaim the table scraps for myself!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 05, 2015, 10:02:56 PM
Dump your crap in their bin
It's a long walk to their bin.

Also, I should probably add that I feel like I am paying less than market value for rent and don't want to stir the pot much.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 05, 2015, 10:05:52 PM
Are your backyards separate?  Do you have a door to the back yard?  Are the bins small enough to be mobile?
Put it by the back door and dump from there, then take out on pick up day only if that isn't what you already do.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 05, 2015, 10:07:59 PM
I mean, then they would have to come into your obvious private area to steal your bin.  Takes a little more assholery to do that than just snatch one from a public area (if they are all stored together).  If they are big enough assholes to do that, than say something.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: wetwillie on January 05, 2015, 10:10:22 PM
Put a padlock on your waste bin.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 05, 2015, 10:15:31 PM
Are your backyards separate?  Do you have a door to the back yard?  Are the bins small enough to be mobile?
Put it by the back door and dump from there, then take out on pick up day only if that isn't what you already do.
They take it on trash day after it's been emptied but I pick mine up.

We have separate areas for our own trash
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on January 05, 2015, 10:20:20 PM
Assuming that their bin is also full, dump a bunch of the waste right next to their full bin and then take your empty bin back to your yard.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 05, 2015, 10:24:09 PM
Yeah, if they are big enough dicks to do that, they deserve what Mrs Gooch said.

Maybe suggest they pay for an additional bin?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 05, 2015, 11:15:27 PM
Assuming that their bin is also full, dump a bunch of the waste right next to their full bin and then take your empty bin back to your yard.
That's kind of mean, and would require me to go into their private space
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: bones129 on January 05, 2015, 11:18:04 PM
Assuming that their bin is also full, dump a bunch of the waste right next to their full bin and then take your empty bin back to your yard.
That's kind of mean, and would require me to go into their private space

Are they going into your private space?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on January 05, 2015, 11:18:14 PM
Oh man, what if you confront them and they deny it?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 05, 2015, 11:19:13 PM
You have the 3 can system right?

I thought one of those was for yard waste, one for recycling and one for food/garbage
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: bones129 on January 05, 2015, 11:19:45 PM
Oh man, what if you confront them and they deny it?

This will be the moment of truth.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 05, 2015, 11:20:29 PM
Assuming that their bin is also full, dump a bunch of the waste right next to their full bin and then take your empty bin back to your yard.
That's kind of mean, and would require me to go into their private space

Are they going into your private space?

No, they take our bin from the curb after it's been emptied on trash day. I almost think that they think they pay for our trash and therefore can use our bins whenever they want. They're kinda old so who knows.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: bones129 on January 05, 2015, 11:21:51 PM
Assuming that their bin is also full, dump a bunch of the waste right next to their full bin and then take your empty bin back to your yard.
That's kind of mean, and would require me to go into their private space

Are they going into your private space?

No, they take our bin from the curb after it's been emptied on trash day. I almost think that they think they pay for our trash and therefore can use our bins whenever they want. They're kinda old so who knows.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 05, 2015, 11:22:09 PM
You have the 3 can system right?

I thought one of those was for yard waste, one for recycling and one for food/garbage
Food waste = yard waste = compost

The gray bin (garbage?) is for trash that can't be recycled or composted, like styrofoam or something.

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: bones129 on January 05, 2015, 11:23:56 PM
Assuming that their bin is also full, dump a bunch of the waste right next to their full bin and then take your empty bin back to your yard.
That's kind of mean, and would require me to go into their private space

Are they going into your private space?

No, they take our bin from the curb after it's been emptied on trash day. I almost think that they think they pay for our trash and therefore can use our bins whenever they want. They're kinda old so who knows.
If that's the case, I think this has now become a situation that can be handled only by the many lawyers on this blog. Are any of them licensed to practice in Cali?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 05, 2015, 11:25:41 PM


Assuming that their bin is also full, dump a bunch of the waste right next to their full bin and then take your empty bin back to your yard.
That's kind of mean, and would require me to go into their private space

Are they going into your private space?

No, they take our bin from the curb after it's been emptied on trash day. I almost think that they think they pay for our trash and therefore can use our bins whenever they want. They're kinda old so who knows.
If that's the case, I think this has now become a situation that can be handled only by the many lawyers on this blog. Are any of them licensed to practice in Cali?

Landlord used to be town judge. :ohno:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 05, 2015, 11:27:48 PM
Oh. Well my mom is doing it wrong then.

Still doesn't sound like a big enough issue to do anything about. Just throw your foodscraps out like a midwesterner on the occasions that this happens
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: bones129 on January 05, 2015, 11:35:22 PM


Assuming that their bin is also full, dump a bunch of the waste right next to their full bin and then take your empty bin back to your yard.
That's kind of mean, and would require me to go into their private space

Are they going into your private space?

No, they take our bin from the curb after it's been emptied on trash day. I almost think that they think they pay for our trash and therefore can use our bins whenever they want. They're kinda old so who knows.
If that's the case, I think this has now become a situation that can be handled only by the many lawyers on this blog. Are any of them licensed to practice in Cali?

Landlord used to be town judge. :ohno:

Could be a prob unless you can find a stud goElawyer there.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 06, 2015, 12:33:29 AM
Ok, new information from the wife:

Apparently the last time this happened she asked the landlord if he had seen our bin, and HE told her to put our address on it. Also, apparently some yard work was done on our part of the property. So maybe he thinks he has a right to our bins to do yard work even though that's his responsibility. Because he took it five days before any work was done - it was sitting empty in his backyard until the work started this weekend
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: SdK on January 06, 2015, 06:54:03 AM
With regards to people who don't drink, don't treat them any differently than you would anyone else. No need to hide drinks or not mention it around them. Believe me whatever they are battling won't be made any worse by your actions. It is incumbent on them to take care of them. I also wouldn't badger them about why they don't drink. That's rude.

#TheWesIsTheFuture
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: pissclams on January 06, 2015, 08:48:21 AM
Update: they really pushed the liquor on me it was fine.
misery loves company
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on January 06, 2015, 08:48:58 AM
Ok, new information from the wife:

Apparently the last time this happened she asked the landlord if he had seen our bin, and HE told her to put our address on it. Also, apparently some yard work was done on our part of the property. So maybe he thinks he has a right to our bins to do yard work even though that's his responsibility. Because he took it five days before any work was done - it was sitting empty in his backyard until the work started this weekend

OK, so if this happens again, as soon as you find your bin missing, go look in their yard and take it back.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: pissclams on January 06, 2015, 08:52:29 AM
we're talking about the bay area where the majority of the population routinely take shits on every sidewalk in the city.
i'm guessing a few leftover chicken nuggets out there wouldn't offend anyone.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Skipper44 on January 06, 2015, 09:28:22 AM
Does the lord of the manor only exercise his prima nocta on the MiCat family bin?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 06, 2015, 09:40:23 AM
Does the lord of the manor only exercise his prima nocta on the MiCat family bin?

ya know, I'm pretty sure m'lord imposed his will on other bins on the property this week. forgot to check.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Canary on January 06, 2015, 11:52:04 AM
With regards to people who don't drink, don't treat them any differently than you would anyone else. No need to hide drinks or not mention it around them. Believe me whatever they are battling won't be made any worse by your actions. It is incumbent on them to take care of them. I also wouldn't badger them about why they don't drink. That's rude.

#TheWesIsTheFuture
SDK, thanks for that information. Could be useful to many of us here.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Institutional Control on January 06, 2015, 12:16:30 PM
I don't trust anyone who won't have a drink with me.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: SdK on January 06, 2015, 05:49:42 PM
Sad standard.

#TheWesIsTheFuture

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Canary on January 06, 2015, 08:47:24 PM
No doubt.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 17, 2015, 03:01:00 AM
Was speed swipe righting and swipe righted a picture with my cousin in it and I don't know if it's her or a friend of hers
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: SdK on January 17, 2015, 09:50:37 AM
Was speed swipe righting and swipe righted a picture with my cousin in it and I don't know if it's her or a friend of hers
You'll be fine as long as she swipes left on you.

#TheWesIsTheFuture

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: SdK on January 17, 2015, 09:52:22 AM
Was speed swipe righting and swipe righted a picture with my cousin in it and I don't know if it's her or a friend of hers
You'll be fine as long as she swipes left on you.

#TheWesIsTheFuture
If not just play it off as you were being funny about how awkward it is. I dunno you can make it work man. Or just unmatch as soon as she swipes right too. Many options.

#TheWesIsTheFuture

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 17, 2015, 10:06:59 AM
http://m.tmz.com/#Video/0-og67jlr6
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: SdK on January 17, 2015, 10:17:39 AM
:lol:

#TheWesIsTheFuture

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: j rake on January 18, 2015, 11:45:04 AM
for christmas, my sister got me an amazon gift card. i opened it, thanked her, then quickly realized that the gift i got her - ALSO an amazon gift card - was for twice as much, and she had yet to open it. obviously, if she opens it, it's pretty awkward.

i think i handled it brilliantly. what would you have done?

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 18, 2015, 11:58:58 AM
Did you give her the gift card she gave you?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: j rake on January 18, 2015, 02:42:12 PM
Did you give her the gift card she gave you?

didn't consider that an option. would have been the quickest most insulting regift in history.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: ChiComCat on January 18, 2015, 02:58:59 PM
Even when the main gift is a gift card, I always try to include something else so there isn't such an exact price tag on it
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on January 18, 2015, 03:54:04 PM
so how did you handle it?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: j rake on January 18, 2015, 04:59:31 PM
so how did you handle it?

took her gift card to my room, stuffed it in a bag, opened up laptop, went to StubHub.com, sent her an online gift card that was wirelessly delivered at a specific time, came back down stairs, told her that her gift "should arrive any minute now," it did, she was pleased, and likely headed to a Syracuse hoops game (we're from NY) any week now.

meanwhile, i kept the Amazon gift card for myself.

i think i handled that well given the "awkward social situation" i was presented with.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 18, 2015, 05:01:43 PM
i will take either of the amazon cards if you don't want them
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: j rake on January 18, 2015, 05:03:59 PM
i will take either of the amazon cards if you don't want them

already added to my account, and have nothing i want to buy.  :frown:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 18, 2015, 05:18:15 PM
i can tell you what to buy and just have it shipped to me  :dunno:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 18, 2015, 05:19:08 PM
I'm so confused
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: WillieWatanabe on January 18, 2015, 08:10:03 PM
I'm so confused

yeah
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: wetwillie on January 18, 2015, 08:12:53 PM
J rake decided it was awkward to give his sister a gift card for an amount significantly larger than the one she just gave him.  So he decided to get her another gift of what I assume was equal value to her gift without her knowing. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 18, 2015, 08:15:06 PM
he opened his sisters gift to him which was a card for x dollars.  his sister had not yet opened his gift to her which was the same card for 2x.  he snatched up the gift for his sister and hid it so she couldn't open it and instead sent her a email gift card or something for a similar amount she gave him.

not that confusing
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 18, 2015, 08:20:48 PM
If he had time to run away and eshop,  he should have just replaced his card with her card.   Boom! Same money.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on January 18, 2015, 08:22:12 PM
J, she's your sister. Buy her something that is not a gift card.


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 18, 2015, 08:43:49 PM
My bro's and I all get together with our wives for a nice dinner rather than buying each other something.  Experiences are worth more than the $50 nothing you would end up getting them anyway.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 18, 2015, 08:45:39 PM
My bro's and I all get together with our wives for a nice dinner rather than buying each other something.  Experiences are worth more than the $50 nothing you would end up getting them anyway.

this is how all of christmas should be, but that's for another thread
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 18, 2015, 08:51:10 PM
Yeah.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 18, 2015, 11:17:14 PM
I like giving experiences for gifts, but pooling with "bros" seems almost as lazy as a gift card.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: pissclams on January 18, 2015, 11:51:04 PM
weird thread
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on January 19, 2015, 06:34:23 AM
weird thread
really anticipating the answer to this awkward social situation
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: j rake on January 19, 2015, 10:36:10 AM
J, she's your sister. Buy her something that is not a gift card.

i used to go all out on presents for her when i was a kid, but we've been at war since Christmas 2001, the year she borrowed my boom box, brought it to swim practice, got it wet, ruined it, and then got me a new boom box (only worse) for Christmas later the same year.

i opened it and said, "thanks for replacing my boom box, now where's my present?"  :frown:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 19, 2015, 10:36:25 AM
I like giving experiences for gifts, but pooling with "bros" seems almost as lazy as a gift card.
My actual brothers.  We go to a really nice restaurant,  then get a bunch of drinks after.  We hardly ever see each other outside of this type stuff, which is why we do it.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 10:38:43 AM


I like giving experiences for gifts, but pooling with "bros" seems almost as lazy as a gift card.
My actual brothers.  We go to a really nice restaurant,  then get a bunch of drinks after.  We hardly ever see each other outside of this type stuff, which is why we do it.

Yeah, I get it, it sounds great. You should do that AND something just for your wife. IMO.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 19, 2015, 10:40:29 AM
Yeah, that simply takes care of the brothers buying brothers presents thing.  Has no weight what so ever on what my wife and I do/get for each other. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 10:41:01 AM
Yeah, that simply takes care of the brothers buying brothers presents thing.  Has no weight what so ever on what my wife and I do/get for each other.
Ohhhhhhh, I thought it was for her
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on January 19, 2015, 12:10:20 PM
Yeah, that simply takes care of the brothers buying brothers presents thing.  Has no weight what so ever on what my wife and I do/get for each other.
Ohhhhhhh, I thought it was for her

I am confused as to why this was so hard to understand.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 12:12:34 PM
Yeah, that simply takes care of the brothers buying brothers presents thing.  Has no weight what so ever on what my wife and I do/get for each other.
Ohhhhhhh, I thought it was for her

I am confused as to why this was so hard to understand.

I read in a hurry and immediately posted, it's what I do. see my post in the thread about starting a post and not posting it.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: slobber on January 19, 2015, 05:07:33 PM

J, she's your sister. Buy her something that is not a gift card.

i used to go all out on presents for her when i was a kid, but we've been at war since Christmas 2001, the year she borrowed my boom box, brought it to swim practice, got it wet, ruined it, and then got me a new boom box (only worse) for Christmas later the same year.

i opened it and said, "thanks for replacing my boom box, now where's my present?"  :frown:
one year you need to give her a monopoly get out of jail free card with a boom box image in the monopoly guy's shoulder.


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: ben ji on January 19, 2015, 08:20:54 PM
New one: I live on a large lot with four units on it, one of which is occupied by the owners (our landlords). All the units pay for their own trash/recycling service.

Since it's California, we have these giant compost bins for, you know, compostable items like food scraps and yard waste.

Well, every now and then after trash day, I'd get our bins and notice our green bin was missing. Eventually it would show up and I suspected a neighbor was grabbing ours by mistake or something. So we wrote our apartment number on all our bins just in case this was what happened or at least it would hopefully make them less inclined to take ours on purpose.

Last week, our green bin was missing. Our landlords had a lot of yard work done (only around their house). Today I took out the trash, and sure enough, our compost bin was there full of yard waste.

Now, our landlords are for the most part very nice people, but I think it's kind of bullshit that they're using a service that I paid for with no benefit to me and without consulting me. It's really not much money, but it can be a pain in the ass figuring out what to do with a week of food scraps that normally went in the bin. And it's really disrespectful. Do I confront the landlords about it? How?

A little late here but you should just build your own garden and compost pile in the backyard.

BOOM, fresh veggies and awkward situation avoided.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: sys on January 19, 2015, 08:58:24 PM
buy your own house, hippie.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 09:07:46 PM
New one: I live on a large lot with four units on it, one of which is occupied by the owners (our landlords). All the units pay for their own trash/recycling service.

Since it's California, we have these giant compost bins for, you know, compostable items like food scraps and yard waste.

Well, every now and then after trash day, I'd get our bins and notice our green bin was missing. Eventually it would show up and I suspected a neighbor was grabbing ours by mistake or something. So we wrote our apartment number on all our bins just in case this was what happened or at least it would hopefully make them less inclined to take ours on purpose.

Last week, our green bin was missing. Our landlords had a lot of yard work done (only around their house). Today I took out the trash, and sure enough, our compost bin was there full of yard waste.

Now, our landlords are for the most part very nice people, but I think it's kind of bullshit that they're using a service that I paid for with no benefit to me and without consulting me. It's really not much money, but it can be a pain in the ass figuring out what to do with a week of food scraps that normally went in the bin. And it's really disrespectful. Do I confront the landlords about it? How?

A little late here but you should just build your own garden and compost pile in the backyard.

BOOM, fresh veggies and awkward situation avoided.

not enough yard/too stinky for compost (already have a garden bed tho)

buy your own house, hippie.

I probably can't afford anything between here and fresno. (and I get past the Oakland hills, I might as well just keep going till I hit KS. Woof).

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: ben ji on January 19, 2015, 09:11:22 PM

not enough yard/too stinky for compost (already have a garden bed tho)


If you do it right compost piles do not stink. When you add the food scraps just put dirt/leaves/grass/old compost on top.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 09:13:30 PM

not enough yard/too stinky for compost (already have a garden bed tho)


If you do it right compost piles do not stink. When you add the food scraps just put dirt/leaves/grass/old compost on top.

we can compost all the meat stuff too and do. Seems like that would be grosser
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 19, 2015, 09:21:41 PM
Not supposed to compost meat.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: sys on January 19, 2015, 09:24:14 PM
Not supposed to compost meat.

he should get a dog.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 09:25:05 PM
Not supposed to compost meat.
It's supposed to go in the green bin and yes you can compost it on your own.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 19, 2015, 09:27:13 PM
I don't live in a green bin area, but all the stuff I have been told or read says you don't compost meat.  It's also why you don't use manure from animals that eat meat in your compost or gardening.  :dunno:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 09:27:43 PM
I don't live in a green bin area, but all the stuff I have been told or read says you don't compost meat.  It's also why you don't use manure from animals that eat meat in your compost or gardening.  :dunno:
http://www.motherearthnews.com/organic-gardening/compost-myths-zbcz1311.aspx#axzz3Ntt8GVFX

http://homeguides.sfgate.com/compost-meat-waste-78294.html
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 19, 2015, 09:32:44 PM
I know they specifically called it composting,  but this is the first time I have ever heard anyone say burying meat 3' deep is composting.  Obvsly you can bury anything dead several feet deep and it will turn out fine.  If you talk to basically anyone about garden composting, this is not what they mean
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 09:36:45 PM
ok CNS
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: CNS on January 19, 2015, 09:48:17 PM
Again, I don't live in a green bin zone.  Is it common for your neighbors to dig shallow graves for leftovers?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2015, 09:52:14 PM
Again, I don't live in a green bin zone.  Is it common for your neighbors to dig shallow graves for leftovers?

don't know, don't care
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: SdK on January 19, 2015, 10:31:58 PM
Again, I don't live in a green bin zone.  Is it common for your neighbors to dig shallow graves for leftovers?
Hahahahahah

#TheWesIsTheFuture

Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 30, 2015, 10:29:49 PM
I've already laid the groundwork so that my customary approach - blunt honesty - shouldn't be too shocking, but it might make things weird after that.  I hate my trainer at my gym, and intend to confirm the same to him when my initial sessions end next trip and that I won't be going forward, but I'll still be using that gym and will likely be signing up with a different trainer at the same place.  All trainers are employed by the gym.  I think the other trainers and my guy's boss all think he's a dumbass already, so they may just lol at him with me going forward or he might even get fired as he appears to have already been on thin ice for a while, so there conceivably could be no awkwardness.  Thoughts?  Questions?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: wetwillie on January 30, 2015, 10:39:35 PM
Why do you hate him
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 30, 2015, 10:41:51 PM
Why do you hate him

He'd be the 3rd dumbest poster on gE if he posted here.  Do you need details?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 30, 2015, 10:43:47 PM
who does he beat?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 30, 2015, 10:45:31 PM
gotta assume yard dog and wacky, but trim is full of surprises
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 30, 2015, 10:45:56 PM
who does he beat?

Let's focus on my situation, alright?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 30, 2015, 10:56:12 PM
 :lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Spracne on January 30, 2015, 11:04:42 PM
gotta assume yard dog and wacky, but trim is full of surprises
Yard dog is probably one of the smartest persons on this blob.  You just mistake his kindness for dumbness.  Sad, really...
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 30, 2015, 11:05:38 PM
i didn't say they were my two
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 30, 2015, 11:08:09 PM
His dumbness might be oversimplifying it, but it's an underlying aspect to all things that annoy me.  I should've started a blog thread about it at the outset.

So like most gyms, when you start at a new one they offer to set you up w/a trainer for free at the outset.  The place is in downtown office building and is relatively small and limited so I wanted to do that and figure out the best way to use what was there.  I meet this guy and he's so big, if he had no insides, I could comfortably wear him as a bodysuit.  I'm telling him I just want to go through basic stuff with what's there so I can soon go super-productively and efficiently on my own.  He acts agreeable but wants to set some outlandish goal of gaining like 35 pounds in 2 months or something.  I'm all "nah" but I'll learn your stuff and take from it what I want.  He gives me a form to fill out some info of my normal daily schedule and what/when I eat so that he can give me a meal plan.

Coincidentally, as I'm typing this dinner's ready.  I'll finish the tale later.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 30, 2015, 11:10:02 PM
on the edge of my seat
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Spracne on January 30, 2015, 11:10:17 PM
Bro, it's too late to be consuming all those calories, unless you plan to stay up until 4:30
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 30, 2015, 11:11:06 PM
it's only 9, centraltexassquawk
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 30, 2015, 11:11:26 PM
you're getting switched to the full-fledged banquet edition
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Spracne on January 30, 2015, 11:21:57 PM
it's only 9, centraltexassquawk
I know that.  What are you, some kinda time zone wonk?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 30, 2015, 11:23:48 PM
that's more of a north Texas thing
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 30, 2015, 11:25:42 PM
it's only 9, centraltexassquawk
I know that.  What are you, some kinda time zone wonk?

do you eat dinner at 3:30 or something?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Spracne on January 30, 2015, 11:31:57 PM
it's only 9, centraltexassquawk
I know that.  What are you, some kinda time zone wonk?

do you eat dinner at 3:30 or something?
Why? Why do this?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 30, 2015, 11:47:53 PM
First training session, fine.  I give him the info.  He's to email me that night or the following day at the latest the meal plan, with our next session the day after that.  I don't receive anything and show up at the scheduled time and he's not there.  The workers say that he called in earlier and claimed that I'd canceled and thus he wasn't coming in.  This was no new year's day.  I tell them that the very words I'm saying to them are the first words I've said out loud all day. 

Next session, I'm asking him wtf, and he just attempts to talk around it, but he's dumb.  He acknowledges that when he called me to tell me that HE was stuck in oregon and needed to cancel, that he got a busy signal (that's because he didn't even have my number and was calling a disconnected wichita number).  I kept asking how out of that he came up with a story of me canceling, and he just started talking about lats or something.  He also says the meal plan's ready but it's on his computer at home.

Nothing too eventful for the next week or so, except he never sends or gives me the meal plan even though I ask each time, and I learn he can't count. 

Constant annoyances each time are him babbling nonstop about anatomy crap that I have no interest in, and him saying how the way that the rest of the world does certain exercises are wrong so he's invented his own modifications (mods).

He never does send the meal plan but about 3 weeks in brings it on a piece of paper and claims the gyms computers are messed up (yes, you're remembering correctly that he'd said earlier that it was all done on his own computer).  The plan's insane with noontime lunch being my fourth feeding session of the day - spracne, according to the plan, I'd still be eating a cup of greek yogurt mixed with a scoop of protein chowder before going to bed.  I tried it for a bit but it was clear quickly the timing on it didn't work at all.  He said no problem and that he'd mod it and email me.  2 weeks later, nothing.

He canceled a few more sessions throughout this.  Last time, he takes the same piece of paper I'd given back to him w/my email address on it so he couldn't eff it up, and just had a bunch of arrows scribbled on it and it was pretty clear he'd done it right when I walked in.  Said the gym computers were mumped again.  The arrows were lol.  Best I can tell, it has me putting almond butter on chicken, because he'd cut out one of the morning meals of almond butter on some crazy protein-injected bread, but forgot to mod the bread somewhere else in the day to match up with the almond butter.  I decided then not to even point it out because I'd be done with him soon.

At the end of that session, he says that our initial 12 sessions are done and need to sign up for more.  This is weird because - remember the counting issues - the day just before, he'd told me that was our 10th and had 2 more.  I also know it was only the 10th because I'd recently added them up after getting a "you've completed your session" email a week or so earlier when I'd done nothing that day but go to the 'hawks rally.  I point this out to him and he doesn't get it.  He meets with management and tells them I've counted differently, and they decide that they'll do me a favor and give me a session "on the house" due to it being possible their computers have issues.  He then tries to get me scheduled way beyond the remaining one, and I tell him that's not happening until after #12 (not #13) and I decide if there's any rough ridin' point to this.

There's been other lol/wtf things along the way.  One that jumps out is his constant pushing of having me go see his masseuse friend who does side work at his house.

Oh yeah, that first time he canceled, the interim trainer is kind of throwing shade at him the whole time about how he talks and teaches anatomy too much.  Another time, his boss told him mid-session they needed to talk when he was done.  He kind of cut mine short and didn't write up what we'd done like he's supposed to, saying he had to get to the meeting and that he'd write it up later and email me.  Never happened.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Spracne on January 30, 2015, 11:53:00 PM
Do you have any proof that he is in fact literate? I'm starting to feel bad for this guy.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 30, 2015, 11:57:53 PM
Do you have any proof that he is in fact literate? I'm starting to feel bad for this guy.

1) He's handwrites what we do in each workout (except that one time) in my book, although he had me spell champagne for him once as part of that.

2) He's theoretically typed the words that are on that meal plan paper and in text messages to me, but I can't confirm he typed them himself.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on January 31, 2015, 12:01:17 AM
Let's imagine what his name is
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on January 31, 2015, 12:01:23 AM
Todd
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 31, 2015, 12:02:32 AM
hunter
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 12:02:57 AM
His name isn't common, and it doesn't match him, both imo.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on January 31, 2015, 12:06:56 AM
Hondo
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 31, 2015, 12:08:00 AM
riley
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on January 31, 2015, 12:08:58 AM
Mauricio
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on January 31, 2015, 12:09:25 AM
Takahiro
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 12:09:53 AM
Nope, although it is indeed 5 letters, and he probably needed help spelling it for some time.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 31, 2015, 12:12:11 AM
Aaden
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Abbie
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Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on January 31, 2015, 12:12:38 AM
Krull
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 12:14:56 AM
lib got it.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: puniraptor on January 31, 2015, 12:15:26 AM
Tomie lol
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: nicname on January 31, 2015, 12:17:48 AM
TRIM to trainer:

Do you even IIFYMB? Now GTFOOMF.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: The Big Train on January 31, 2015, 01:06:57 AM
lib guessed it right, so other than 5 letters...any other clues?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 01:11:40 AM
lib guessed it right, so other than 5 letters...any other clues?

Biblical, I think.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 01:19:00 AM
tobias

:lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 31, 2015, 01:19:55 AM
mods with their goddamned delete buttons :curse:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 01:20:41 AM
:lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 31, 2015, 01:23:25 AM
:lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: The Big Train on January 31, 2015, 01:23:44 AM
lib guessed it right, so other than 5 letters...any other clues?

Biblical, I think.

aramaic? hebrew? german? lots of names in lots of different languages
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 01:25:46 AM
lib guessed it right, so other than 5 letters...any other clues?

Biblical, I think.

aramaic? hebrew? german? lots of names in lots of different languages

American/English?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 31, 2015, 01:30:24 AM
five Hebrew letters, six otherwise :lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 01:37:02 AM
Anyway, I'll probably be going to the gym tomorrow to work out on my own, and he won't be there.  I'll see if there's any way I can leave my Dear John (his name's not Johnn, it's a figure of speech) with his boss and get switched to someone else.  Otherwise, next week could feature the greatest size discrepancy real-life PI ever.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Tobias on January 31, 2015, 01:40:20 AM
i don't see how this doesn't end up (lots of negatives!) with you having beers with his boss and making fun of this dude(4)
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Bloodfart on January 31, 2015, 10:28:30 AM
It sounds like you already played this situation out.  Why did you put up with this guy for so long? 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 10:34:53 AM
It sounds like you already played this situation out.  Why did you put up with this guy for so long? 

I suppose I'm just a kind soul.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: mocat on January 31, 2015, 10:44:31 AM
there is a guy that works at my gym who swipes my card when i walk in, then waits 3 minutes and then comes into the locker room and pretends to do stuff while looking at me while i change clothes. this happens 100% of the time i go to the gym. his name is Brince  :lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Bloodfart on January 31, 2015, 10:49:19 AM
It sounds like you already played this situation out.  Why did you put up with this guy for so long? 

I suppose I'm just a kind soul.

You might need some instruction on how to be more assertive.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 10:59:36 AM
It sounds like you already played this situation out.  Why did you put up with this guy for so long? 

I suppose I'm just a kind soul.

You might need some instruction on how to be more assertive.

 :D

It's possible that getting a new trainer at the same gym might be as awkward as the seinfeld roommate switch.  We'll see.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on January 31, 2015, 11:03:19 AM
What if he's into it?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 11:17:54 AM
:sdeek:

I'd conceivably be eating 8 meals by noon.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 11:37:25 AM
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Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: wetwillie on January 31, 2015, 11:44:29 AM
I would ask if he is on twitter but I'm guessing the work computers aren't up long enough to tweet. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dr Rick Daris on January 31, 2015, 12:11:26 PM
(https://goemaw.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi709.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fww92%2FTommyRoanoke%2FIMAG0478_zpsuq0aafow.jpg&hash=8a3c7eeb9645e9f291cb853f5659384c5874a552) (http://s709.photobucket.com/user/TommyRoanoke/media/IMAG0478_zpsuq0aafow.jpg.html)



 :lol:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: sys on January 31, 2015, 12:14:38 PM
first trim moves to seattle and now he's trying to gain 35 pounds super quick and spending all his free time fishing for marlin. 
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on January 31, 2015, 12:47:53 PM
first trim moves to seattle and now he's trying to gain 35 pounds super quick and spending all his free time fishing for marlin. 

And I can't even eat the marlin. :frown:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: sys on January 31, 2015, 12:56:24 PM
And I can't even eat the marlin. :frown:

when you break up with your trainer, let him know that you were very disappointed not to get the almond butter marinated marlin recipe you requested.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dugout DickStone on February 01, 2015, 10:49:16 AM
Keith
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Dr Rick Daris on February 01, 2015, 11:27:02 AM
dustin
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: ChiComCat on February 01, 2015, 11:36:13 AM
Isaac
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on February 01, 2015, 12:03:51 PM
Isaac

 :party:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on February 02, 2015, 08:56:02 AM
So did you break up with your trainer or what?

I would have just gone to the gym on my own for a couple weeks then went to the front desk to sign up for some training sessions and when they said "Issac is available on this date" say "No, I'd rather sign up with someone else."
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on February 03, 2015, 05:18:20 PM
I'm afraid I've got some bad news for fans of awkward social situations.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Spracne on February 03, 2015, 05:39:32 PM
I'm afraid I've got some bad news for fans of awkward social situations.

Isaac was oscar'd?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on February 03, 2015, 05:47:29 PM
I'm afraid I've got some bad news for fans of awkward social situations.

Isaac was oscar'd?

Yep, and within the last 21 hours right before I was going to break up with him.  Not only that, Tobias' prediction seems likely.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on September 25, 2018, 01:59:13 PM
not sure if I've shared this before, but I live on a lot that my landlord owns. My duplex is at the front of the lot and he lives in a house at the back of the lot. Every political season, he puts right wing (at least for California) signs in front of our house that we disagree with. I don't want people to think we support his views, but also we pay way less for rent than we should and are friendly with each other and I don't want to piss them off. Now the sign is actually one in favor of an anti-rent control measure. what do you do in this situation?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on September 25, 2018, 02:04:30 PM
Ignore it
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: michigancat on September 25, 2018, 02:46:31 PM
Ignore it

my wife stole one when they had a sign for the DA that warned citizens that an In-n-Out would bring gang activity to town
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: mocat on September 25, 2018, 02:50:16 PM
that is a really tough one. political signs (of any kind whatsoever) are unbelievably cringey
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: wetwillie on September 25, 2018, 02:56:38 PM
Burn his house down
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: pissclams on September 25, 2018, 03:27:02 PM
i drove by a house in OP that had 4 kevin yoder signs in the front yard and a buick in the driveway, gave them the double eagles as i drove by
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on September 26, 2018, 05:06:03 PM
Put your own opposing sign in the yard also.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Trim on September 26, 2018, 05:13:36 PM
not sure if I've shared this before, but I live on a lot that my landlord owns. My duplex is at the front of the lot and he lives in a house at the back of the lot. Every political season, he puts right wing (at least for California) signs in front of our house that we disagree with. I don't want people to think we support his views, but also we pay way less for rent than we should and are friendly with each other and I don't want to piss them off. Now the sign is actually one in favor of an anti-rent control measure. what do you do in this situation?

What effect would the rent control measure passing or failing have on your situation w/the landlord?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: chum1 on September 26, 2018, 06:51:06 PM
Sue his ass.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: catastrophe on September 27, 2018, 12:34:48 AM
not sure if I've shared this before, but I live on a lot that my landlord owns. My duplex is at the front of the lot and he lives in a house at the back of the lot. Every political season, he puts right wing (at least for California) signs in front of our house that we disagree with. I don't want people to think we support his views, but also we pay way less for rent than we should and are friendly with each other and I don't want to piss them off. Now the sign is actually one in favor of an anti-rent control measure. what do you do in this situation?

Steal the sign and find some way to dispose of it (probably too risky to put it in your house).  Repeat until election season is over.

The tricky part is whether you should call/text your landlord first and say "hey, that sign disappeared from our yard last night..." or whether you're going to go with the "oh, you know, I barely even noticed we had a sign there"
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on September 28, 2018, 10:19:39 AM
Had a great awkward sitch yesterday. Soon-to-be Mrs BAC and I went out to dinner. It's the kind of place where you order at the counter, then you get your own drinks/silverware and sit wherever you want and they bring your food when it's ready.

So Mrs BAC is filling drinks and I grab silverware and get us a table outside. She didn't see i had grabbed silverware so she got it too. When she came outside and saw we were doubled up on silvy she looked over and noticed another couple sitting outside and they did not have any SW so she walked over and was like "hey we grabbed extra and I noticed you didn't have any, would you like these?" And then the guy says "we have one more person coming"

So Mrs BAC walks all the way back inside and grabs another set for them and I was just chuckling quietly to myself. I think I spent the majority of our time at dinner imagining different scenarios of how that interaction could have played out
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on September 28, 2018, 10:32:49 AM
I was at the DMV a few weeks ago and this place had 2 "sides", one for license stuff and one for plate stuff and each has their own take a number station. So being the first time I had been there I initially took one of each while I sat down figured out what was going on. After about 5 minutes the guy next to me notices he's been waiting with a number for the wrong side and goes and gets a new number for the correct side. When he sits back down I'm like hey bud I don't need the number for his side and gave it to him moving him up 1 spot in line. Then I asked if I could have his old number (the side I needed) so he gave it to me and it was 22 spots ahead of what I had. Saved me 2.5 hours of waiting.  :thumbs:
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: pissclams on September 28, 2018, 10:49:28 AM
Had a great awkward sitch yesterday. Soon-to-be Mrs BAC and I went out to dinner. It's the kind of place where you order at the counter, then you get your own drinks/silverware and sit wherever you want and they bring your food when it's ready.

So Mrs BAC is filling drinks and I grab silverware and get us a table outside. She didn't see i had grabbed silverware so she got it too. When she came outside and saw we were doubled up on silvy she looked over and noticed another couple sitting outside and they did not have any SW so she walked over and was like "hey we grabbed extra and I noticed you didn't have any, would you like these?" And then the guy says "we have one more person coming"

So Mrs BAC walks all the way back inside and grabs another set for them and I was just chuckling quietly to myself. I think I spent the majority of our time at dinner imagining different scenarios of how that interaction could have played out

was this at howard's grocery, downtown kcmo?  were the decemberists there?
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on September 28, 2018, 11:03:31 AM
If say yes I feel like id be admitting that I follow 'lams around IRL hoping for social interaction...
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on September 28, 2018, 11:05:28 AM
I was at the DMV a few weeks ago and this place had 2 "sides", one for license stuff and one for plate stuff and each has their own take a number station. So being the first time I had been there I initially took one of each while I sat down figured out what was going on. After about 5 minutes the guy next to me notices he's been waiting with a number for the wrong side and goes and gets a new number for the correct side. When he sits back down I'm like hey bud I don't need the number for his side and gave it to him moving him up 1 spot in line. Then I asked if I could have his old number (the side I needed) so he gave it to me and it was 22 spots ahead of what I had. Saved me 2.5 hours of waiting.  :thumbs:

Take it to the serendipitous social interactions thread
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: ChiComCat on September 28, 2018, 11:32:56 AM
Had a great awkward sitch yesterday. Soon-to-be Mrs BAC and I went out to dinner. It's the kind of place where you order at the counter, then you get your own drinks/silverware and sit wherever you want and they bring your food when it's ready.

So Mrs BAC is filling drinks and I grab silverware and get us a table outside. She didn't see i had grabbed silverware so she got it too. When she came outside and saw we were doubled up on silvy she looked over and noticed another couple sitting outside and they did not have any SW so she walked over and was like "hey we grabbed extra and I noticed you didn't have any, would you like these?" And then the guy says "we have one more person coming"

So Mrs BAC walks all the way back inside and grabs another set for them and I was just chuckling quietly to myself. I think I spent the majority of our time at dinner imagining different scenarios of how that interaction could have played out

That is delightful
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: pissclams on September 28, 2018, 11:55:45 AM
Had a great awkward sitch yesterday. Soon-to-be Mrs BAC and I went out to dinner. It's the kind of place where you order at the counter, then you get your own drinks/silverware and sit wherever you want and they bring your food when it's ready.

So Mrs BAC is filling drinks and I grab silverware and get us a table outside. She didn't see i had grabbed silverware so she got it too. When she came outside and saw we were doubled up on silvy she looked over and noticed another couple sitting outside and they did not have any SW so she walked over and was like "hey we grabbed extra and I noticed you didn't have any, would you like these?" And then the guy says "we have one more person coming"

So Mrs BAC walks all the way back inside and grabs another set for them and I was just chuckling quietly to myself. I think I spent the majority of our time at dinner imagining different scenarios of how that interaction could have played out

That is delightful
i wonder what they got to eat, hopefully some chipotle to honor kat kid
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Brock Landers on September 28, 2018, 01:21:03 PM
I was at the DMV a few weeks ago and this place had 2 "sides", one for license stuff and one for plate stuff and each has their own take a number station. So being the first time I had been there I initially took one of each while I sat down figured out what was going on. After about 5 minutes the guy next to me notices he's been waiting with a number for the wrong side and goes and gets a new number for the correct side. When he sits back down I'm like hey bud I don't need the number for his side and gave it to him moving him up 1 spot in line. Then I asked if I could have his old number (the side I needed) so he gave it to me and it was 22 spots ahead of what I had. Saved me 2.5 hours of waiting.  :thumbs:

Take it to the serendipitous social interactions thread

Man I love living in a small town sometimes.  Trips to the tag agency take about 10 minutes tops.  LOL at the concept of ever waiting in line for 2.5 hours.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: star seed 7 on September 28, 2018, 01:36:59 PM
It was quicker than I thought!
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: stunted on May 04, 2023, 05:18:24 PM
so i've done well socially in my current city. people want to hang out. one dude in particular too much. in the 1.5 month i've known him he's pretty much asked to go out every weekend day and then every other day other than that. it's actually absurd that i keep giving flimsy excuse after another and he can't take the hint. i've been on the other side though of not feeling included and i feel bad, but i mean, i could take a hint. this feels like such a high school question to ask but it's driving me a little crazy. wtf do i do
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Kat Kid on May 04, 2023, 06:18:48 PM
I think the most reasonable thing is just to outline how much you would like to hang out 1x on the weekend? Every other week?  And then just explain you have a lot of other things going on and you like hanging out, but hate saying no all the time.

The “here is how often I am available” needs to be specific though for that to work.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on May 04, 2023, 10:03:06 PM
so i've done well socially in my current city. people want to hang out. one dude in particular too much. in the 1.5 month i've known him he's pretty much asked to go out every weekend day and then every other day other than that. it's actually absurd that i keep giving flimsy excuse after another and he can't take the hint. i've been on the other side though of not feeling included and i feel bad, but i mean, i could take a hint. this feels like such a high school question to ask but it's driving me a little crazy. wtf do i do

Next time you hang out with him just act like you do on the basketball board. He’ll back off, I promise
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Spracne on May 04, 2023, 10:03:37 PM
 :D
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: stunted on May 05, 2023, 04:34:03 AM
I think the most reasonable thing is just to outline how much you would like to hang out 1x on the weekend? Every other week?  And then just explain you have a lot of other things going on and you like hanging out, but hate saying no all the time.

The “here is how often I am available” needs to be specific though for that to work.

yea. that sounds like really good advice if someone is cool but a little overbearing. didn't really like his vibe from the beginning but seemed nice enough. he might be a crazy person now though. i imagine this is what women have to deal with, except they're just so used to ghosting dudes to not feel bad about it anymore.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: mocat on May 05, 2023, 07:56:41 AM
This does feel like a tiny taste of what women have to deal with 247365
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Katpappy on May 05, 2023, 08:42:28 AM
so i've done well socially in my current city. people want to hang out. one dude in particular too much. in the 1.5 month i've known him he's pretty much asked to go out every weekend day and then every other day other than that. it's actually absurd that i keep giving flimsy excuse after another and he can't take the hint. i've been on the other side though of not feeling included and i feel bad, but i mean, i could take a hint. this feels like such a high school question to ask but it's driving me a little crazy. wtf do i do

Next time you hang out with him just act like you do on the basketball board. He’ll back off, I promise

Another thing to do that might help is to get rid of that ugly obnoxious picture in your posts.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: OK_Cat on May 05, 2023, 09:21:59 AM
Maybe just be honest and be like "hey my guy, let's hang sometimes but i'll call you, i have a lot going on"

honesty is the best policy
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Cire on May 05, 2023, 09:25:36 AM
Wife and I have a lifelong friend who lost their dad a few months ago.

They are having his celebration of life at a small lake East of Tulsa.

When he passed, their mother kind of fell apart, she's probably got early dementia and sort of had a falling out with the daughters.

Friend asked us to drive the mom down because they were afraid of her telling them no...

Leaving today and set to drive half crazy mom.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Sandstone Outcropping on May 05, 2023, 09:30:12 AM
Wife and I have a lifelong friend who lost their dad a few months ago.

They are having his celebration of life at a small lake East of Tulsa.

When he passed, their mother kind of fell apart, she's probably got early dementia and sort of had a falling out with the daughters.

Friend asked us to drive the mom down because they were afraid of her telling them no...

Leaving today and set to drive half crazy mom.
You are a good friend to do this. Hope that it goes as well as possible for you.
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: pissclams on May 05, 2023, 04:18:06 PM
so i've done well socially in my current city. people want to hang out. one dude in particular too much. in the 1.5 month i've known him he's pretty much asked to go out every weekend day and then every other day other than that. it's actually absurd that i keep giving flimsy excuse after another and he can't take the hint. i've been on the other side though of not feeling included and i feel bad, but i mean, i could take a hint. this feels like such a high school question to ask but it's driving me a little crazy. wtf do i do
tell him that you want to be more than just friends
Title: Re: Answers to awkward social situations
Post by: Katpappy on May 05, 2023, 07:08:07 PM
 :lol: