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General Discussion => Essentially Flyertalk => Topic started by: star seed 7 on June 30, 2016, 10:26:21 PM
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and finding people to hang out with/date as an adult. how do you do it? need help plz
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Join a drinking kickball team. Bond around making fun of the umps.
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When I lived in KC I played on a kickball team that Wacky eventually refed for, but before his new$money joined it. I played with friends to begin with, but I def made new ones from that. So 8MP is on point.
There is a pretty active KC young professionals group in KC that is good. I know the person who started it, I can give you her info if you want.
We are buds lib, no matter what interactions good/bad we have on this blog.
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i heard that thing went to crap when the guy running it quit
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I'll watch a roys game anytime bruh
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1. accept that the friends you make post-college will be compartmentalized
2. identify people with traits you admire
3. be really forward about wanting to do the thing that you see yourself doing with the new friend
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For instance your dog is someone i have to meet
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When I lived in KC I played on a kickball team that Wacky eventually refed for, but before his new$money joined it. I played with friends to begin with, but I def made new ones from that. So 8MP is on point.
There is a pretty active KC young professionals group in KC that is good. I know the person who started it, I can give you her info if you want.
We are buds lib, no matter what interactions good/bad we have on this blog.
tbt bud, don't ever doubt that i think you're a good dude.
just a horrible bbs'r
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1. accept that the friends you make post-college will be compartmentalized
2. identify people with traits you admire
3. be really forward about wanting to do the thing that you see yourself doing with the new friend
1) ez
2) kind of overwhelming
3) :runaway:
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:D
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Gun store
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"hey fuckface, are you watching the [event] on [day of the week]? let's drink for it"
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if you're not committed to drinking you may as well give up on making friends
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Gun store
gun show this month i believe.... :goodbyecruelworld: (but at a bad guy)
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Man, bubs has been a godsend to the board
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if you're not committed to drinking you may as well give up on making friends
this is unfortunate news
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Hot Yoga
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Dog Park
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"hey fuckface, are you watching the [event] on [day of the week]? let's drink for it"
Sign me up! :excited:
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Dog Park
well that's rough ridin' interesting man that's rough ridin' interesting
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Come to quaff. Walk up to the finest MFr you see. 99% chance it's me or wacky. Done.
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find a special lady friend that has friends
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or a normal lady friend
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if you're not committed to drinking you may as well give up on making friends
Well, this is just not accurate.
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Come to quaff. Walk up to the finest MFr you see. 99% chance it's me or wacky. Done.
left pnl around 9:30 and almost decided to go over there for a few minutes to check it out. but i didn't.
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Come to quaff. Walk up to the finest MFr you see. 99% chance it's me or wacky. Done.
I've been there exactly 1 time, and I met up with Wacky before a flight
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Magic The Gathering
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find a special lady friend that has friends
this is by far the easiest (so best) answer. women just naturally talk to other people for some reason and then sometimes you have to talk to the other people too and then all of a sudden there are millions of people running around that know who you are even though you can't remember who they are and it's hard to do anything without having to stop and talk with people and eventually you prolly have to move to a new city and start fresh.
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Intp
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find a special lady friend that has friends
Or just a friend that's a lady.
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Roller derby
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Young Republicans.
Haha.
Just do stuff. Lots of different stuff. Don't sit at home and make fun of me on gE.
Royals aren't gonna win 'em all
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if you're not committed to drinking you may as well give up on making friends
Well, this is just not accurate.
"a person with whom beers are shared" is the foremost definition of a friend.
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Whole Foods
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I met my two non-college best friends 1) at the dog park, and 2) on a flyfishing internet forum. Both were in my wedding.
Other friends have been work friends but since we don't work together anymore we don't really hang.
I worked part time at a flyfishing retailer and have made some friends through that.
When I took my dog to the ER vet last Saturday I made potential friends with the ER doc and we're going fishing this spring if we keep in touch.
Have made some potential friends at the archery range but yet to see if any of those will pan out.
Finding someone whom I would trust with my life is hard (as it should be).
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Or just a friend that's a lady.
have i got a sequel for you!
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Ideas:
Join a church/temple, and get involved in their various activities.
Volunteer someplace where lots of other people do as well.
Join an athletic activity club. Like a jogging or hiking club.
Join a 12 step program. Meet loads of people that way.
Go back to school and get another degree.
Get a part time job doing something fun/hip. Coffee shop, bar, record store, Cirillas, etc
Join a men's league at a local golf course
Attempt to actually talk to your neighbors
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Go gay for a while
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Move to a more populated area (it's a numbers game)
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Roller derby
I am IRL friends with 0 people that I did roller derby with. I am FB friends with a few of them though.
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Dating your way into a group of friends is a good idea until you find out she does something awfully annoying (in this case was a secret republican or something) and when you break up she takes all the friends in the "divorce."
It isn't easy, but being really intentional is the way to do it. If it isn't in your wheelhouse it can be as nerve racking as hitting on a pretty girl at a bar, but you have to commit to trying. If you meet someone at kickball/KState viewing event/a dog park go grab a drink or a lunch with them. Find a common interest video games/ disc golf / or whatever and hit em up every time you want to do those things.
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Ok, follow up: how do I find a hobby?
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Find a young libs group. Talk crap on 'pubs, etc.
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Try a bunch of stuff.
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What stuff
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I vote charity work. You might not meet people, but at least you'd be doing something worthwhile. If there's no causes you care about and you're too lazy for hobbies, maybe having friends just wasn't meant to be.
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Stay off the computer and tv for a day or two. Make note of what you end up thinking about. Look into that stuff.
That said, hobbies don't necessarily lead to friends. For instance, I don't want anyone in the kitchen while I am cooking. They get.in the way.
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Change your personality from being a introvert to being a extrovert
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Be a polarizing person. This has led me to loads of friends (one of which is you!). Just have your charisma ooze from every ounce of your being and not give a eff.
As for females...My Great Uncle Walt used to bag a ton girls in the Topeka area ( :Ugh: ). He had about a 7% success rate but he wasn't afraid of rejection and would aggressively flirt with about 15 women a day until one fell for his rugged good looks* & charm.
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Stay off the computer and tv for a day or two. Make note of what you end up thinking about. Look into that stuff.
That said, hobbies don't necessarily lead to friends. For instance, I don't want anyone in the kitchen while I am cooking. They get.in the way.
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Renocat :surprised:
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Have your dog do most of the work on both ends. I think you can utilize that to your advantage.
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Change your personality from being a introvert to being a extrovert
Tell me more about this option.
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where is your mansion? waldo?
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where is your mansion? waldo?
More of an estate, but correct
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Change your personality from being a introvert to being a extrovert
Tell me more about this option.
Drugs and booze
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Change your personality from being a introvert to being a extrovert
Tell me more about this option.
Just totally change who you are. I've always been an extrovert, but in the past couple of years, I've turned into a grumpy old man some, so I went introvert and I hide in my hole on the weekends. Sometimes I have to tell Mrs. Wacky we're not sitting at the bar when we go out to eat, because it means will end up with 12 new friends and stay out till 3 am.
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Change your personality from being a introvert to being a extrovert
Tell me more about this option.
Drugs and booze
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Yeah, it helps.
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Change your personality from being a introvert to being a extrovert
Tell me more about this option.
Just totally change who you are. I've always been an extrovert, but in the past couple of years, I've turned into a grumpy old man some, so I went introvert and I hide in my hole on the weekends. Sometimes I have to tell Mrs. Wacky we're not sitting at the bar when we go out to eat, because it means will end up with 12 new friends and stay out till 3 am.
So do the opposite of this, lib.
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Can I take an earholing class somewhere?
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Can I take an earholing class somewhere?
Yeah and I can teach it.
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you need to shoot for 50 drinks a week.
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If you want to make friends, then when you say to someone "hey we should get lunch sometime" and they say "ok that's cool" you shouldn't then say "oh man I could totally murder you at lunch!"
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If you want to make friends, then when you say to someone "hey we should get lunch sometime" and they say "ok that's cool" you shouldn't then say "oh man I could totally murder you at lunch!"
Well I've only said this once but I get your point
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Have kids.
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you need to shoot for 50 drinks a week.
you can slow down after you make some friends but 7+ drinks a night is going to put you in touch with the right people.
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I'm not sure I broke 50 drinks in the last year :sdeek:
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I'm not sure I broke 50 drinks in the last year :sdeek:
Yeah, you're really gonna have to go full alcoholic if you wanna do this thing right.
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I'm not sure I broke 50 drinks in the last year :sdeek:
:dubious:
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I'm pretty sure I hit 50 drinks on a Monday on my honeymoon.
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I'm pretty sure I hit 50 drinks on a Monday on my honeymoon.
Why were you trying to make friends when you were on your honeymoon?
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well the good news is i think we've isolated the problem, lib
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I'm pretty sure I hit 50 drinks on a Monday on my honeymoon.
Why were you trying to make friends when you were on your honeymoon?
We couldn't help it. Pool side bar and all inclusive. Can confirm i'm like Facebook friends with someone from NY that I met down there now. He was a really cool guy. #bromance
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I'm pretty sure I hit 50 drinks on a Monday on my honeymoon.
Why were you trying to make friends when you were on your honeymoon?
Also, I met the deans daughter from the University of Maryland dental school down there. It's already helping me at work.
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Join a Crossfit box. You will 100% for sure make friends unless you are a total dick.
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I think taking an adult learning class is a good way. Such as a cooking class or language class. #lifelonglearner
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I think taking an adult learning class is a good way. Such as a cooking class or language class. #lifelonglearner
Where do I find out about these things in my local area
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Lib. You are going to have to do some of the research yourself.
TBT, Pete, and KK have had the best advice in this thread.
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I think taking an adult learning class is a good way. Such as a cooking class or language class. #lifelonglearner
Where do I find out about these things in my local area
Do you pick up the pitch when you see one? If not, do it.
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I'm not sure I broke 50 drinks in the last year :sdeek:
I respect that. I'm sure I did not either.
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I think taking an adult learning class is a good way. Such as a cooking class or language class. #lifelonglearner
Where do I find out about these things in my local area
JCCC, but also in a city like KC or Lawrence a lot of restaurants or stuff will put on things like this. As a for instance, I just play pick up soccer. I haven't really developed friends beyond just hanging, but oh well.
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they have some cooking and art classes that are mostly about drinking wine.
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KC Catbackers :love:
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You're welcome to come play golf with Canary and I anytime in Topeka. Might even convince us to pay for your round. Then maybe you'll like it enough to join a league in OP?
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We already kind of know one another anyway.
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I think taking an adult learning class is a good way. Such as a cooking class or language class. #lifelonglearner
Where do I find out about these things in my local area
https://www.opkansas.org/things-to-see-and-do/classes-programs-and-leagues/
http://www.opkansas.org/events/
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are you good at shotgunning beers? would you like to be better? i will teach you over facetime at lunch or after work. check your dms.
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This is going to be like that time he just decided to go with the chicken strips from sonic but then didn't even go
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KC Catbackers :love:
i would never do this for real but i think i would like to shadow somebody at one of their meetings sometime just to people watch
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KC Catbackers :love:
i would never do this for real but i think i would like to shadow somebody at one of their meetings sometime just to people watch
I would do this
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Lib, we live in the same 'hood. I'll be friends with you.
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Also I'm kinda seeing a woman that lives in KC. The next time I'm up that way I'll send you a message.
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KC Catbackers :love:
i would never do this for real but i think i would like to shadow somebody at one of their meetings sometime just to people watch
I would do this
i mean i have no idea but in my mind's eye it's just tucked in purple polos as far as the eye can see
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join a crossfit gym.. but not a douchey one
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You're welcome to come play golf with Canary and I anytime in Topeka. Might even convince us to pay for your round. Then maybe you'll like it enough to join a league in OP?
Would welcome golf with another gE guy.
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join a crossfit gym.. but not a douchey one
that's like telling someone to jump in a pool that won't get you wet
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join a crossfit gym.. but not a douchey one
that's like telling someone to jump in a pool that won't get you wet
#blessed at my gym.. even one of the best mhk Indians teachers goes to it
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KC Catbackers :love:
i would never do this for real but i think i would like to shadow somebody at one of their meetings sometime just to people watch
I would do this
i mean i have no idea but in my mind's eye it's just tucked in purple polos as far as the eye can see
Right.. people that will crowd a bar to ask GPC writers about recruits. It's like real life Twitter
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Roller derby
I am IRL friends with 0 people that I did roller derby with. I am FB friends with a few of them though.
PickleWhip
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Change your personality from being a introvert to being a extrovert
Tell me more about this option.
Just totally change who you are. I've always been an extrovert, but in the past couple of years, I've turned into a grumpy old man some, so I went introvert and I hide in my hole on the weekends. Sometimes I have to tell Mrs. Wacky we're not sitting at the bar when we go out to eat, because it means will end up with 12 new friends and stay out till 3 am.
On this same note, I think finding a restaurant that you really enjoy that has a menu you could eat off of most days of the week and becoming a regular is a possibility. I waited tables at LABCO for awhile and there was a real community among the regulars there. Might need to be a local establishment instead of a chain. It's kinda like Cheers in real life.
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The reason you're having trouble is that you're getting older. As you age, you get increasingly less tolerant of other people's bullshit. Human nature.
So, just be patient. Give it some time and you'll start to realize that not having friends is a good thing because it means less bullshit in your life.
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you'll start to realize that not having friends is a good thing.
this is incredibly true. i guess it might be ok to replace some non-friends with friends, but it doesn't work like that. the friends get added on to the non-friends and then there's too many and you're mumped.
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What are you looking for from these potential friends?
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What are you looking for from these potential friends?
Social interaction from time to time. Expanding my network to meet other people and possibly a potential special lady friend. People to try restaurants with.
Basically stop being a couch sloth
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are there like yelp meetups?
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www.meetup.com/
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Lib, let's plan on watching the Royals this Sunday. You and me big guy.
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Ideas:
Join a church/temple, and get involved in their various activities. good idea!
Volunteer someplace where lots of other people do as well. you can meet people who "give back"! not just booze hounds
Join an athletic activity club. Like a jogging or hiking club. sounds strenuous but it could work
Join a 12 step program. Meet loads of people that way. if you made 1 friend per step that's 12. Jesus had 12 disciples. 12 is PLENTY of friends! :Woohoo:
Go back to school and get another degree. veto. too much of school is online in most fields. it would have to be v specific
Get a part time job doing something fun/hip. Coffee shop, bar, record store, Cirillas, etc plus a little extra $
Join a men's league at a local golf course i don't golf but i guess it could be cool. or bowling league, etc
Attempt to actually talk to your neighbors i love chit chatting neighbors. its great.
Pete once again hits the nail on the head! i added my own commentary bolded for your pleasure
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Man, I wish I was a church dude, seems Hella ez to meet people
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Man, I wish I was a church dude, seems Hella ez to meet people
Not compatible* with your 50 drinks a day plan
*unless you choose Catholic
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Lotta booze haters ITT. Frankly, it disgusts me and is yet another example of gE's membership losing its collective zeal.
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Man, I wish I was a church dude, seems Hella ez to meet people
Try a more flexible variety. Might be to your liking.
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The crossfit box was a very good idea. I take a yoga class at the one near me and all those ppl are nice AF. I mean, they all keep asking me when I am going to join, but still, even when I tell them I am not joining, nice AF.
Also, the volunteer thing from Mich was good. Maybe join lions club, or rotary or something.
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Crossfit may actually satisfy the "more flexible variety" idea. Its close to a religion for them, but not in a your going to hell way.
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What are you looking for from these potential friends?
Social interaction from time to time. Expanding my network to meet other people and possibly a potential special lady friend. People to try restaurants with.
Basically stop being a couch sloth
Do you have any disc golf experience? I don't, but I want to try.
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Lake olathe has a cool course. I want to try it too.
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I used to live a block from the Rosedale Park course but no
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So do you not drink at all, or just not very much? Would meeting up at kc bier Co for a beer be out of your comfort zone? This is pretty much all I do w my friends.
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What are you looking for from these potential friends?
Social interaction from time to time. Expanding my network to meet other people and possibly a potential special lady friend. People to try restaurants with.
Basically stop being a couch sloth
Start doing stand-up comedy.
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One of the jccc classes is how to be funny
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One of the jccc classes is how to be funny
an improv class could be fun. It could also be a nightmare.
Either way you end up with good stories!
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One of the jccc classes is how to be funny
I guess. But I'm saying just start doing open mics. I think you'd fit in well with those people, who also probably need friends. Hours would probably work well too.
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I'll be your friend.
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I'll be your friend.
I invited you to go see ameriGEDDON
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No, none of that bullshit FFS. Come on.
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Dax and libliblibliblibliblib being IRL friends would make me happy.
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You guys should squish your differences and hug it out
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Yeah, you guys should make plans to meet up at the scheme and friend it up.
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I'm a friend to all EMAW
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Yeah, you guys should make plans to meet up at the scheme and friend it up.
:frown:
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Yeah, you guys should make plans to meet up at the scheme and friend it up.
Geezus, you're worse then a chick. #letitgo
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Have a kid and then take that kid to the kid park or set up play dates and stuff
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Lib^7, you should get into woodworking and become friends with Phil and mine's brother-in-law that lives in Columbus Park.
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Lib, don't take SdK up on any of his offers. He doesn't have feelings or anything.
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Lib, volunteering at Habitat for Humanity seems like something that is in your wheelhouse
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Also at a animal shelter
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Lib, volunteering at Habitat for Humanity seems like something that is in your wheelhouse
I think you might be right
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You know what you like so engage in social activities geared towards that. No point in making new friends that don't share any similar passions. I'm kindof in the same boat. I didn't have a big problem when i was single and no kids, but with 2 kids and living in wisconsin, it definitely makes it difficult to have time to interact with people.
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I've over-imbibed two nights in a row now and I've gained a new friend on top of a better understanding and appreciation of my already friends.
Alcohol is the way forward.
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i swear to god, if you go through with this plan to make additional friends you are going to regret it.
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i swear to god, if you go through with this plan to make additional friends you are going to regret it.
you're probably right but do you think he would regret drinking a lot more?
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i swear to god, if you go through with this plan to make additional friends you are going to regret it.
you're probably right but do you think he would regret drinking a lot more?
Definitely not.
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Man, I wish I was a church dude, seems Hella ez to meet people
Not compatible* with your 50 drinks a day plan
*unless you choose Catholic
This is correct.
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