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General Discussion => Essentially Flyertalk => Topic started by: j rake on March 20, 2013, 02:22:00 PM
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went to the bank this morning and the bank teller lady began asking me pointless small talk questions like "how is your day going so far?" and "plan to do anything exciting this week?"
i replied with "not bad" (my day had started only hours earlier) and told her i was looking forward to the basketball tournament. yes, i said "basketball tournament." had I been more specific, i would have said, "looking forward to watching the college basketball tournament."
but i didn't, and as a result ...
"oh, you play basketball?"
"no, i watch it. march madness."
"oh, yeah. i don't really follow basketball."
she proceeded to do other banking things. then, back to small talk.
"so who do you think will win?"
i told her i liked louisville.
"oh, interesting."
how is that interesting? how is any part of that interesting? she doesn't know me, she doesn't follow basketball, she has never watched louisville and is incapable of measuring the quality of my prognostication. it is completely and totally uninteresting to her.
i guess i don't understand the purpose of "small talk." is the purpose to fake niceness and to pretend to care about people you don't care about.
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People just like to fill the silence with pointless conversation. People in my office love to chit chat during elevator rides. It makes the situation more comfortable for them, I think. I, on the other hand, do not mind silence.
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i don't mind small talk at bars or in taxis or at a tailgate or a game. i genuinely enjoy talking to people if the encounter will be longer than a minute or two.
but a bank? no. just be my banker.
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I despise people that have to continously talk. Please just stfu and let me do whatever I'm doing in peace. I could easily go an entire day without talking to a soul and would be perfectly happy
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I've been accosted by the guy at my wash-and-fold the last couple times I've dropped off my laundry. The first occassion he told me it was the last time he could charge me so little to do my laundry. The price of detergent has gone way up since he set his rates. I told him he could charge me more, but that just seemed to annoy him. The second time had something to do with the Chinese restaurant across the street.
"People are strange."
Also, the worst is when the barber/hairstylist wants to talk to me. No escape route there.
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I have a super EMAW barber, and I love chatting him up about the cats. He's kind of a tuck, but in an adorable, non-racist way.
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Also, the worst is when the barber/hairstylist wants to talk to me. No escape route there.
part of the reason why i now cut my own hair. :frown:
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Love my barber and his small talk. Why I keep going back, honestly.
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MD feeling my naked parts and talking to me about random other stuff is a very good use of small talk. very much appreciate this.
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i don't do small talk with anyone who i suspect is only small talking me. i will ignore them and not respond. or if i do, i'll just say something like, "can we please just move this along?"
the african chick at l'occitane sucks at the register and always tries to small talk me. i just mush her dumbass and don't respond.
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MD feeling my naked parts and talking to me about random other stuff is a very good use of small talk. very much appreciate this.
They must have a class on this at medical school. Wonder what it's called?
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I have to small talk for what I do and I am baller at it.
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One time my friend's mom had to feel my junk. Very awkward for both of us.
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I have to small talk for what I do and I am ballet at it.
does this mean you're agile and glide seamlessly from topic to topic?
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I love small talk. Also I'm a master at it. I could small talk anyone on this board and you wouldn't even know it.
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One time my friend's mom had to feel my junk. Very awkward for both of us.
Cougar?
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I have to small talk for what I do and I am baller at it.
Talk during binging / treat breaks is not small talk, imo
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One time my friend's mom had to feel my junk. Very awkward for both of us.
Cougar?
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No. Super nice lady, though. Awesome kids/family.
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i hate small talk and am awful at it. i'm not even good at it when i'm drunk. last weekend i was talking to a cabbie about where he was from and i asked him where lahore was from kandahar(meant karachi, of course). "it's quite a ways south. like, in another country."
part of my problem is that i'm a bit shy and anxious. another part is that i really dislike talking about last week's weather when we could be talking about space.
someone tell me how to be better at it, please.
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someone tell me how to be better at it, please.
wellbutrin
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someone tell me how to be better at it, please.
wellbutrin
i'll start by cutting down on stimulants and go from there.
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someone tell me how to be better at it, please.
wellbutrin
talk all about the other person and only ask open ended questions
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Also, the worst is when the barber/hairstylist wants to talk to me. No escape route there.
part of the reason why i now cut my own hair. :frown:
Before reading this post, I was going to suggest that the bank chick was into you.
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Also, the worst is when the barber/hairstylist wants to talk to me. No escape route there.
part of the reason why i now cut my own hair. :frown:
you do a very admirable job
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paying for haircuts is just the worst and the stupidest. i had to do it the other week and it made me so mad. paying someone to pull out some scissors and cut your hair w/ them? good grief.
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Tried to have several ppl cut mine for free before and it never ended well. Worth the money to not look like a Fake Sugar Dick (WARNING, NOT THE REAL SUGAR DICK!) that cuts his own hair, imo. No offense rake.
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Tried to have several ppl cut mine for free before and it never ended well. Worth the money to not look like a Fake Sugar Dick (WARNING, NOT THE REAL SUGAR DICK!) that cuts his own hair, imo. No offense rake.
NONE TAKEN!
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I have sat through entire haircuts without saying a word. Also, why on earth did you go inside the bank? Are you 80? You seem terrible at avoiding small talk situations.
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I have sat through entire haircuts without saying a word. Also, why on earth did you go inside the bank? Are you 80? You seem terrible at avoiding small talk situations.
i'm 26, and no, i'm not terrible at avoiding small talk situations. but at banks, there's not much i can do. i won't be rude by using a cell phone (the sign says "please refrain from using your cell phone during all transactions"), so my best option is pretty much not at my disposal. and at banks, there's not much to pretend to look at (i usually study the business loan posters and act interested while hoping the teller doesn't ask me if i'm interested).
my best trick for avoiding small talk is to put headphones in my ears. i almost always keep an extra set of headphones in the car. i put them in my ears when in public (malls, store, etc.) and tuck the cord into my pocket and pretend like i'm listening to music.
on days when my ipod is sufficiently charged, i listen to music.
but those days are rare. :frown:
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Sometimes, people just want to share a few smiles and a little humor because it makes both parties involved feel good. HOW AWFUL!
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Lots of social anxiety in this thread.
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went to the bank this morning and the bank teller lady began asking me pointless small talk questions like "how is your day going so far?" and "plan to do anything exciting this week?"
i replied with "not bad" (my day had started only hours earlier) and told her i was looking forward to the basketball tournament. yes, i said "basketball tournament." had I been more specific, i would have said, "looking forward to watching the college basketball tournament."
but i didn't, and as a result ...
"oh, you play basketball?"
"no, i watch it. march madness."
"oh, yeah. i don't really follow basketball."
she proceeded to do other banking things. then, back to small talk.
"so who do you think will win?"
i told her i liked louisville.
"oh, interesting."
how is that interesting? how is any part of that interesting? she doesn't know me, she doesn't follow basketball, she has never watched louisville and is incapable of measuring the quality of my prognostication. it is completely and totally uninteresting to her.
i guess i don't understand the purpose of "small talk." is the purpose to fake niceness and to pretend to care about people you don't care about.
She wanted to bone, bruh
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I have sat through entire haircuts without saying a word. Also, why on earth did you go inside the bank? Are you 80? You seem terrible at avoiding small talk situations.
i'm 26, and no, i'm not terrible at avoiding small talk situations. but at banks, there's not much i can do. i won't be rude by using a cell phone (the sign says "please refrain from using your cell phone during all transactions"), so my best option is pretty much not at my disposal. and at banks, there's not much to pretend to look at (i usually study the business loan posters and act interested while hoping the teller doesn't ask me if i'm interested).
my best trick for avoiding small talk is to put headphones in my ears. i almost always keep an extra set of headphones in the car. i put them in my ears when in public (malls, store, etc.) and tuck the cord into my pocket and pretend like i'm listening to music.
on days when my ipod is sufficiently charged, i listen to music.
but those days are rare. :frown:
Next time just wear a ski mask and hand the teller a note. That'll let them know you don't do small talk.
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Just be polite and engage with people you come in contact with. Smile, say please and thank you, and don't be a grumpy gus when someone asks you about your weekend but doesn't know who Rick Pitino is. People at banks and in customer service are just trying to be nice, go ahead and reciprocate.
When asked: "How has your day been" you might answer with "it's been good thus far, how has yours been?" and then listen to what the person says.
Pretty sure I learned that when I was like 3.
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One time my friend's mom had to feel my junk. Very awkward for both of us.
It's only awkward if she's not a doctor.
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Just be polite and engage with people you come in contact with. Smile, say please and thank you, and don't be a grumpy gus when someone asks you about your weekend but doesn't know who Rick Pitino is. People at banks and in customer service are just trying to be nice, go ahead and reciprocate.
When asked: "How has your day been" you might answer with "it's been good thus far, how has yours been?" and then listen to what the person says.
Pretty sure I learned that when I was like 3.
Very easy to smalltalk when approached by someone being polite. Sometimes it's nice to talk to a complete stranger that has manners and isn't a dickhead. People that are rude for no reason make me angry, also people that don't say "you're welcome" after a thank you
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I had a cabbie small talk me on the way home one night when I was pak'd as crap. He said he was from Hungary... I asked him if he wanted to come inside and have pancakes with me. He never said another word.
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I had a cabbie small talk me on the way home one night when I was pak'd as crap. He said he was from Hungary... I asked him if he wanted to come inside and have pancakes with me. He never said another word.
Exactly one year ago I had a Russian limo driver in Vegas and we made small talk about Rocky 4 and how the Russian got destroyed. Mainly I made small talk about it. the cops were called when we got to our destination. True story.
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Just be polite and engage with people you come in contact with. Smile, say please and thank you, and don't be a grumpy gus when someone asks you about your weekend but doesn't know who Rick Pitino is. People at banks and in customer service are just trying to be nice, go ahead and reciprocate.
When asked: "How has your day been" you might answer with "it's been good thus far, how has yours been?" and then listen to what the person says.
Pretty sure I learned that when I was like 3.
people that don't say "you're welcome" after a thank you
Sometimes I say "yep." Not sure why, it's just what comes out when I'm on auto pilot.
"Thank you."
"Yep."
:dunno:
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Just be polite and engage with people you come in contact with. Smile, say please and thank you, and don't be a grumpy gus when someone asks you about your weekend but doesn't know who Rick Pitino is. People at banks and in customer service are just trying to be nice, go ahead and reciprocate.
When asked: "How has your day been" you might answer with "it's been good thus far, how has yours been?" and then listen to what the person says.
i don't care how her day has been. and she doesn't care how my day has been.
it's similar in golf. you play your opponent, maybe for money, and you act all enthusiastic when he hits a great shot or sinks a putt to beat you.
"wow! nice putt! great job!"
inside your head, moments earlier, you were saying to yourself, "miss it, miss it, rot in hell, miss it!"
why be phony? :dunno:
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i should add: i'm always polite, nice, never rude, etc.
i'm sure our small talk was great. :sdeek:
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BREAKING: When people talk, the purpose is rarely to transmit significant information.
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why on earth would anyone ever go to a bank?
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All week I've been trying to avoid sitting with random on ski lifts. I hate it. Either awkward silence or I'll just talk to my brother and leave them out of the conversation completely.
It isn't nearly as bad if they start the small talk though.
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Just be polite and engage with people you come in contact with. Smile, say please and thank you, and don't be a grumpy gus when someone asks you about your weekend but doesn't know who Rick Pitino is. People at banks and in customer service are just trying to be nice, go ahead and reciprocate.
When asked: "How has your day been" you might answer with "it's been good thus far, how has yours been?" and then listen to what the person says.
Pretty sure I learned that when I was like 3.
people that don't say "you're welcome" after a thank you
Sometimes I say "yep." Not sure why, it's just what comes out when I'm on auto pilot.
"Thank you."
"Yep."
:dunno:
"no problem" is my auto-pilot.
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why on earth would anyone ever go to a bank?
Asked this above Rusty. Still waiting.
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my auto pilot is "you bet your ass you do"
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i really hate small talk because i'm a weirdo that locks up inside whenever someone talks to me and the conversation doesn't have a purpose (aka, work or school related). stranger small talk is possibly the most panic inducing part of a normal day. i can't ever imagine talking to someone just because they happen to be standing next to me, seems like the behavior of stupid people.
wellbutrin didn't work SD, all that did was give me some fairly awesome (sexual) side effects.
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why on earth would anyone ever go to a bank?
Asked this above Rusty. Still waiting.
lollipops. :lick:
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why on earth would anyone ever go to a bank?
Asked this above Rusty. Still waiting.
lollipops. :lick:
my haircut place has lollipops. what now rake?
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why on earth would anyone ever go to a bank?
Asked this above Rusty. Still waiting.
lollipops. :lick:
my haircut place has lollipops. what now rake?
Mine has beer and whiskey.
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I'm not into small talk and I have trouble making it on my own.
The absolute worst is talking about the weather especially on a normal season day.
small talker: " sure is hot out there"
Me: "yep sure is" said with a cringed face. Meanwhile in my head I'm thinking " no rough ridin' crap! It's rough ridin' July".
small talker: "not sure how I'm gonna make it this year"
In my head: " you're gonna deal with it the same way you've been dealing with it for the past fifty effin years" " you're gonna wear shorts, drink H20, and keep your fatass inside"
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why on earth would anyone ever go to a bank?
Asked this above Rusty. Still waiting.
lollipops. :lick:
http://www.amazon.com/Candy-Sucker-Lollipop-Assortment-144/dp/B001H001NI/ref=sr_1_12?ie=UTF8&qid=1363834373&sr=8-12&keywords=lollipops
no small talk required.
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Also, I love going into detail when people try to have small talk.
Like, "Hey michigancat, how's it going this morning?" and then I just go on and on about my morning pickup game and how I schooled some fools on the court for like 10 minutes and then invite them to play. or "what did you do this weekend?" and dive into every act at every concert and every restaurant and who I went with and what I liked and what I didn't. By then they've gotten their coffee and are gone.
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mostly when people say "thank you" i say "no, thank you" or "oh, thank you"
is this wrong
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that's why mexicans are better than us (most people are, prolly). instead of small talk, they do formal pleasantries. it's super easy. it feels good and you can do it while thinking of about 16 other things inside your head.
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I enjoy small talk, but I hate really generic small talk subjects like weather, how your day has been, etc. I always try to ask a somewhat original question. Also, if someone makes a significant change like getting a ton of hair cut off, I never comment on it, because I bet they're tired of everyone thinking they're the first person to notice it.
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Consider me surprised a bunch of creepy BBSer's can't do small talk (real life). :dubious:
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Hey guys, pretty chilly outside this morning huh?
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so uh, hows this thread gong?
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My dentist is a talker. It would be fine if she just talked to pass the time, but she always asks me questions while working. How am I supposed to answer while she's scraping my teeth and my mouth is filling up with saliva?! I can't even nod/shake my head without getting my gums poked!
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i don't do small talk with anyone who i suspect is only small talking me. i will ignore them and not respond. or if i do, i'll just say something like, "can we please just move this along?"
the african chick at l'occitane sucks at the register and always tries to small talk me. i just mush her dumbass and don't respond.
how are you doing today pissclams?
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I don't small talk and would rather not but sometimes its nice.
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In the bathroom at the office... . "How's your month going?"
If someone you don't really know talks to you while you are peeing you should have every right to piss all over them while you are answering their question.
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also people that don't say "you're welcome" after a thank you
I feel awkward saying "You're welcome" when people thank me for doing something that doesn't deserve a thank you...like when I type in my login number when I arrive at the gym...
"Thank you , Mrs. Gooch"
"Well you're welcome for typing in 8 digits which required a tiny bit of effort so that I can workout and which benefits you none at all."
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also people that don't say "you're welcome" after a thank you
I feel awkward saying "You're welcome" when people thank me for doing something that doesn't deserve a thank you...like when I type in my login number when I arrive at the gym...
"Thank you , Mrs. Gooch"
"Well you're welcome for typing in 8 digits which required a tiny bit of effort so that I can workout and which benefits you none at all."
True, some situations don't require a "you're welcome". Thank you for replying though
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also people that don't say "you're welcome" after a thank you
I feel awkward saying "You're welcome" when people thank me for doing something that doesn't deserve a thank you...like when I type in my login number when I arrive at the gym...
"Thank you , Mrs. Gooch"
"Well you're welcome for typing in 8 digits which required a tiny bit of effort so that I can workout and which benefits you none at all."
Just give them the wink and the gun.
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also people that don't say "you're welcome" after a thank you
I feel awkward saying "You're welcome" when people thank me for doing something that doesn't deserve a thank you...like when I type in my login number when I arrive at the gym...
"Thank you , Mrs. Gooch"
"Well you're welcome for typing in 8 digits which required a tiny bit of effort so that I can workout and which benefits you none at all."
Just give them the wink and the gun.
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I usually just smile and nod.
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I travel once or twice a month for work and usually find someone that wants to small talk at the local restaurant/bar, but I sorta feel like that's what people alone do at the bar so I just try to go along with it. But the bank teller was just trying to get to know you a little better so she felt less like a whore after she sat on your dick later. One of those things girls do, i guess.
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i don't do small talk with anyone who i suspect is only small talking me. i will ignore them and not respond. or if i do, i'll just say something like, "can we please just move this along?"
the african chick at l'occitane sucks at the register and always tries to small talk me. i just mush her dumbass and don't respond.
how are you doing today pissclams?
you're lying
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I had a cabbie small talk me on the way home one night when I was pak'd as crap. He said he was from Hungary... I asked him if he wanted to come inside and have pancakes with me. He never said another word.
Exactly one year ago I had a Russian limo driver in Vegas and we made small talk about Rocky 4 and how the Russian got destroyed. Mainly I made small talk about it. the cops were called when we got to our destination. True story.
Please tell the full story.
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I don't small talk and would rather not but sometimes its nice.
This would be a great small talk lead in.
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It snowed today. Didn't snow yesterday. Will it snow tomorrow?
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On the subject of cabbie small talk, DlewGF picked me up at Heathrow last week and on the way the cabbie tried to evangelize her and told her that she "should strongly consider what's going to happen to her after she dies."
:sdeek:
also, i'm a complete pro at small talk. especially with middle aged ladies. they can't get enough of my delightful chatter. middle aged ladies are my niche.
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On the subject of cabbie small talk, DlewGF picked me up at Heathrow last week and on the way the cabbie tried to evangelize her and told her that she "should strongly consider what's going to happen to her after she dies."
:sdeek:
haha...I had a similar experience when this cabbie screamed at me "GOD IS GREAT" the entire drive from SFO to Haight-Ashbury
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that's why mexicans are better than us (most people are, prolly). instead of small talk, they do formal pleasantries. it's super easy. it feels good and you can do it while thinking of about 16 other things inside your head.
Can you give a couple examples?
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that's why mexicans are better than us (most people are, prolly). instead of small talk, they do formal pleasantries. it's super easy. it feels good and you can do it while thinking of about 16 other things inside your head.
Can you give a couple examples?
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that's why mexicans are better than us (most people are, prolly). instead of small talk, they do formal pleasantries. it's super easy. it feels good and you can do it while thinking of about 16 other things inside your head.
Can you give a couple examples?
someone you know a little.
good day, how good it is to see you. i hope your family is well. please greet your family for me. thank you for asking about my family, they are well. i will tell them you asked for them. it gave me pleasure to see you. i hope you rest (i never felt comfortable saying this, but a lot of people do it). i hope you go well. good bye.
someone you don't know.
good day. thank you.
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My dentist is a talker. It would be fine if she just talked to pass the time, but she always asks me questions while working. How am I supposed to answer while she's scraping my teeth and my mouth is filling up with saliva?! I can't even nod/shake my head without getting my gums poked!
that's a great one tdaver. questioner dentists should all be fired.
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I enjoy small talk. I am a people person though.
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that's why mexicans are better than us (most people are, prolly). instead of small talk, they do formal pleasantries. it's super easy. it feels good and you can do it while thinking of about 16 other things inside your head.
Can you give a couple examples?
someone you know a little.
good day, how good it is to see you. i hope your family is well. please greet your family for me. thank you for asking about my family, they are well. i will tell them you asked for them. it gave me pleasure to see you. i hope you rest (i never felt comfortable saying this, but a lot of people do it). i hope you go well. good bye.
someone you don't know.
good day. thank you.
would've been easier to just post it in Spanish.