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General Discussion => Essentially Flyertalk => Topic started by: j rake on March 14, 2011, 03:45:47 PM
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If you get invited to a wedding you don't want to attend, should you still send a wedding gift?
(I have a very strong opinion on this topic but don't want to share it out of fear that sys will scream at me.)
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Yes you "should". But you should not feel obligated to spend as much as if you were going to the wedding. I usually do gift cards or checks with a nice wedding card.
When I go to a wedding, I usually spend a lot more since they are spending a good chunk of money on me (and wife) for food, drinks, etc.
If it is someone you don't like and question why they sent you an invite in the first place, go ahead and don't send them a gift so you can cut them off completely.
Edit: Best wedding etiquette is to RSVP. Non RSVP'ers piss me off. Sucks having to call everyone cause they can't take 30 seconds to RSVP online. :chainsaw:
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Totally depends on relationship. And if they went to your wedding.
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If you don't want to attend, who cares what they think?
side note: wedding gifts are such a rough ridin' scam. I mean how else would their still be waffle irons otherwise.
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probably depends on how close you are to them. but if you're not close enough that you feel you have to attend, you're probably not close enough to worry about getting them something. Send a card.
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If I'm not going to the wedding, I send a card with a $20 check. I don't send anything if I don't like the person. If I go to the wedding, I usually spend about $50 on a gift.
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I hate weddings. I would stay home from all of them if given a true choice.
That said, I still have to send a gift to some of them.
If neither my wife or I like them, no gift.
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http://goEMAW.com/forum/index.php?topic=641.0
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http://goEMAW.com/forum/index.php?topic=641.0
I hate wedding gifts with a passion. It's just incredibly wasteful, even when compared to other wedding expenses. Really, weddings are the biggest sham in history. I recommend eloping.
heh
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I think some people invite you knowing full well you arent coming and hope they will send you a gift. I want to fist fight people like this.
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Ask Fatty!
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Interesting that okcat has such insight into this matter. I didn't realize that the photographer was expected to bring a gift. Seems like they could just deduct the cost of the gift from the $50 they pay him. :dunno:
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Interesting that okcat has such insight into this matter. I didn't realize that the photographer was expected to bring a gift. Seems like they could just deduct the cost of the gift from the $50 they pay him. :dunno:
More like $1500.
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:lol:
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You paid okcat $1500 to take pics of your wedding? What a dumbass.
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As I've gotten older (read early 30's and married myself) my outlook on this has changed. As a recent graduate, I didn't always send a gift, or a card, after I got married, I send a gift ($$) in a card. The only wedding I recently didn't do anything for was my cousin who got married last summer, he didn't even RSVP to my wedding and it was his second marriage, so nothing for them. :surprised:
In short, if the bride or groom gave you something or you would expect them to give you something, then you should reciprocate.
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As I've gotten older (read early 30's and married myself) my outlook on this has changed. As a recent graduate, I didn't always send a gift, or a card, after I got married, I send a gift ($$) in a card. The only wedding I recently didn't do anything for was my cousin who got married last summer, he didn't even RSVP to my wedding and it was his second marriage, so nothing for them. :surprised:
In short, if the bride or groom gave you something or you would expect them to give you something, then you should reciprocate.
You married yourself? Like performed the ceromony or for tax fraud?
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Seems weird to give cheesy gifts to someone that just wasted tens of thousands on a big wedding. Yea, weddings can be fun, but what a waste of money.
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You paid okcat $1500 to take pics of your wedding? What a dumbass.
My wife's parents are free to pay whatever they want to whomever they want. It's their money. If you want a professional photographer to take pictures of you for announcements, invitations, save-the-dates, and the actual wedding itself, the cheapest you will find is about $1000. It will be about $1500 for somebody good. These prices do not include photos. Those are an additional $50-200 per depending on the size. Wedding photographers make bank.
If I were in charge, I would have just paid some dude I knew $50 to take pictures on my cheap camera. It's probably a good thing I wasn't in charge.
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You paid okcat $1500 to take pics of your wedding? What a dumbass.
My wife's parents are free to pay whatever they want to whomever they want. It's their money. If you want a professional photographer to take pictures of you for announcements, invitations, save-the-dates, and the actual wedding itself, the cheapest you will find is about $1000. It will be about $1500 for somebody good. These prices do not include photos. Those are an additional $50-200 per depending on the size. Wedding photographers make bank.
If I were in charge, I would have just paid some dude I knew $50 to take pictures on my cheap camera. It's probably a good thing I wasn't in charge.
Yea photos are expensive. A lot of photographers won't give you rights to the photos after the wedding, making all photo purchases go through them. Luckily for my wedding we found a great photographer who gave us the photo rights so we could get them printed wherever the hell we wanted.
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Seems weird to give cheesy gifts to someone that just wasted tens of thousands on a big wedding. Yea, weddings can be fun, but what a waste of money.
Yeah, it doesn't seem weird at all to show up to a wedding, eat a $10-15 plate of food, drink for free all night, and not give any money or gift to the people who provided that to you.
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Buy 'em something you cheap bastard! If you can re-gift, then do it. I re-gifted a George Foreman mini and they thought it was the most thoughtful thing in the world as it wasn't on the register.
Re: wedding cost - our's was $12k and that included the food (catered by Coco Bolos :lick: ), booze (a TON) and photos. All my wife's freinds squeeled and called it a great deal I was like :dunno: .
My sister dropped $60k on her's. She has bank and it was her coin. Her dress alone was $15k. I thought it was a MONSTROUS waste of $, but it was hers so again I provided her with a :dunno:
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yeah, i've shot 1 wedding in my life and i got $1800 for it. weddings are a pretty good business for people that do those things. $200+ for a cake? cake lady is raking it in.
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Dude, you've said (a bunch of times) on this board that you've never shot a wedding. Why do you feel the need to lie to us?
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Dude, you've said (a bunch of times) on this board that you've never shot a wedding. Why do you feel the need to lie to us?
pretty much every other post of mine on this board is a lie. I might not even live in Oklahoma. :ck: stop being so butthurt about it
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yeah, i've shot 1 wedding in my life and i got $1800 for it. weddings are a pretty good business for people that do those things. $200+ for a cake? cake lady is raking it in.
I know two chicks who do this on the side and are well thought of in that field.
Both have told me that they use Pilsbury mix :surprised:
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yeah, i've shot 1 wedding in my life and i got $1800 for it. weddings are a pretty good business for people that do those things. $200+ for a cake? cake lady is raking it in.
I know two chicks who do this on the side and are well thought of in that field.
Both have told me that they use Pilsbury mix :surprised:
sounds like how BITB lew perkins would run a cake making business
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(I have a very strong opinion on this topic but don't want to share it out of fear that sys will scream at me.)
Still waiting to hear your thoughts on this buttface.....
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(I have a very strong opinion on this topic but don't want to share it out of fear that sys will scream at me.)
Still waiting to hear your thoughts on this buttface.....
Who you calling buttface, assfart!
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Seems weird to give cheesy gifts to someone that just wasted tens of thousands on a big wedding. Yea, weddings can be fun, but what a waste of money.
Yeah, it doesn't seem weird at all to show up to a wedding, eat a $10-15 plate of food, drink for free all night, and not give any money or gift to the people who provided that to you.
The entire process really is a strange ritual when you think about it. I mean, I don't expect a friend coming over for dinner to leave me a mixer in exchange for $20 worth of food and some drinks. Especially if they traveled a few hundred miles for the privilege.
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Seems weird to give cheesy gifts to someone that just wasted tens of thousands on a big wedding. Yea, weddings can be fun, but what a waste of money.
Yeah, it doesn't seem weird at all to show up to a wedding, eat a $10-15 plate of food, drink for free all night, and not give any money or gift to the people who provided that to you.
I didn't say I don't get a gift; I do.
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dear god. this is all really dumb. weddings are a nice way to give young people who don't have any money a bunch of nice stuff. the cost is also typically defrayed by the brides parents or both or whatever. it's basically parents buying their kids stuff by throwing a big party and charging the people who come by making them buy gifts. seems like a win/win. bride/groom get stuff. people that come buy a gift in exchange for food/drinks/hanging out w/ people they like. if anybody should be pissed about this deal, it's the parents but there are like two or four of them or whatever so who gaf? not me.
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here's an idea: how bout these lazy "young people" go make more money so they can buy nice stuff.
Also, no one at weddings gets nice stuff. It's all Target/Bed Bath and Beyond worthless unnecessary crap. Well, at most weddings.
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here's an idea: how bout these lazy "young people" go make more money so they can buy nice stuff.
Also, no one at weddings gets nice stuff. It's all Target/Bed Bath and Beyond worthless unnecessary crap. Well, at most weddings.
that is actually nice stuff for a good percentage of people just getting married. or just most people in general. also, who gives a f about lazy young people and how much money they make? i sure as f do not. do not at all. maybe change your name to icareabouthowmuchmoneypeoplemakecat. judging judger.
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Last wedding I went to I bought 2 gifts from the registry, a meat cutting board and a wii controller
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here's an idea: how bout these lazy "young people" go make more money so they can buy nice stuff.
Also, no one at weddings gets nice stuff. It's all Target/Bed Bath and Beyond worthless unnecessary crap. Well, at most weddings.
This is why my wife and I only registered for unnecessary crap at Crate and Barrel and Macy's.
Register small get it all. Register for a bunch of crap and people will buy you crap before the stuff you need/want. This is the only way we managed to get a Dyson Vacuum (it was all that was left on the registry).
EDIT: I probably sounds like a greedy prick, but people over register and then have to finish buying their registry that includes the crap they actually wanted/needed afterwords.
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here's an idea: how bout these lazy "young people" go make more money so they can buy nice stuff.
Also, no one at weddings gets nice stuff. It's all Target/Bed Bath and Beyond worthless unnecessary crap. Well, at most weddings.
This is why my wife and I only registered for unnecessary crap at Crate and Barrel and Macy's. Register small get it all. Register for a bunch of crap and people will buy you crap before the stuff you need/want. This is the only way we managed to get a Dyson Vacuum (it was all that was left on the registry).
EDIT: I probably sounds like a greedy prick, but people over register and then have to finish buying their registry that includes the cac they actually wanted/needed afterwords.
same sort of stuff that target carries just more expensive. i bet you like designer jeans too
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here's an idea: how bout these lazy "young people" go make more money so they can buy nice stuff.
Also, no one at weddings gets nice stuff. It's all Target/Bed Bath and Beyond worthless unnecessary crap. Well, at most weddings.
This is why my wife and I only registered for unnecessary crap at Crate and Barrel and Macy's. Register small get it all. Register for a bunch of crap and people will buy you crap before the stuff you need/want. This is the only way we managed to get a Dyson Vacuum (it was all that was left on the registry).
EDIT: I probably sounds like a greedy prick, but people over register and then have to finish buying their registry that includes the cac they actually wanted/needed afterwords.
same sort of stuff that target carries just more expensive. i bet you like designer jeans too
Target doesn't carry the same quality of appliances. Also, stupid to register at more than 2 places IMO. FWIW, I look great in the jeans I buy. :fatty:
Edit: Not saying Target sucks, I actually love the dot. Made the mistake of not registering for outdoors stuff. Would have been a great advantage of a Target registry. Just goes back to over registering will create too many voids you will feel obligated to finish (dish set, few more glasses, etc).
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here's an idea: how bout these lazy "young people" go make more money so they can buy nice stuff.
Also, no one at weddings gets nice stuff. It's all Target/Bed Bath and Beyond worthless unnecessary crap. Well, at most weddings.
that is actually nice stuff for a good percentage of people just getting married. or just most people in general. also, who gives a f about lazy young people and how much money they make? i sure as f do not. do not at all. maybe change your name to icareabouthowmuchmoneypeoplemakecat. judging judger.
He's turning mean and grumpy because the winter is too long. It isn't his fault.
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here's an idea: how bout these lazy "young people" go make more money so they can buy nice stuff.
Also, no one at weddings gets nice stuff. It's all Target/Bed Bath and Beyond worthless unnecessary crap. Well, at most weddings.
that is actually nice stuff for a good percentage of people just getting married. or just most people in general. also, who gives a f about lazy young people and how much money they make? i sure as f do not. do not at all. maybe change your name to icareabouthowmuchmoneypeoplemakecat. judging judger.
He's turning mean and grumpy because the winter is too long. It isn't his fault.
Thanks. Just saw our weatherman get giddy because some rain and possibly snow is on the way. Gee whiz.
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I personally love to buy expensive crap for weddings, just to show people that I make more money than them. However, if someone actually registered for a Goddamned Dyson, I would instantly feel like kicking them in the dick/cooter and likely buy them a freaking spice rack.
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Also, no one at weddings gets nice stuff. It's all Target/Bed Bath and Beyond worthless unnecessary crap. Well, at most weddings.
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I personally love to buy expensive crap for weddings, just to show people that I make more money than them. However, if someone actually registered for a Goddamned Dyson, I would instantly feel like kicking them in the dick/cooter and likely buy them a freaking spice rack.
I registered for a Dyson and got it! :woot:
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hint to you wedding registry n00bs: If you get stuff from BBB you can return it for cash at the rack rate and then buy it later using a 20% off BBB coupon :fatty:
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Seems weird to give cheesy gifts to someone that just wasted tens of thousands on a big wedding. Yea, weddings can be fun, but what a waste of money.
Yeah, when I got hitched, we just had a cake and punch reception. We spent all of our money on a fantastic honeymoon in Branson. At the hotel, we played Confederate Soldier doodles Miss Yankee.
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registering for the expensive crap is a good idea, most places that do a registry will give you X% off to complete the registry after your wedding/shower/whatever, plus a lot of people give gift cards to the places you register, so win-win.
i agree with only register for crap you want, and don't go overboard. We (no, I didn't marry myself as suggested) didn't register for much cause we didn't need it-being elite working professionals, we had most stuff we wanted :gocho:-we registered for china, nice(ish) silverware, everyday dishes and nice cookware and that was about it.
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This place is as impregnable as a crack whore in a trailer park.
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I like a good spamming or two. Keeps us all a little more honest.
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I would recommend using recaptcha
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Thanks hemmy :lol:
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Get them a target gift card for $20. Say its for $50. They will blame it on stupid target employees and give you sufficient small talk to survive the next inevitably awkward encounter.
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Thanks hemmy :lol:
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