hell yeah
a master divorce thread there would be amazing.
My boy turns 5 today
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IBombedTheMoon12:38p
Ok Texags, serious post is serious, I actually need some help here. Backstory, my exwife and I have a son who turned 5 today. My son has Cystic Fibrosis, he gets quarterly check ups at Cook Children's, and tomorrow is his big yearly checkup. My major concern is that his doctor, who I have known and trusted for over 5 years, may recommend the jab.
This is a line in the sand for me. I've never been arrested, hell, I've never been detained outside of a moving violation, but I will not, under any circumstances, let me son get the jab tomorrow, even if it means my arrest.
Where I'm screwed: The ex and I have a longstanding agreement that if we differ on medical procedures, we defer to the Dr's recommendation. This has worked well because we all have been on the same page about keeping my son healthy. There just hasn't been any controversy.
Where I might be OK: I've only broached the subject lightly with the ex, her response was "we'll do what the Dr says" but that was months ago and I think that enough data has come out to show that children simply don't need the jab, even children with CF don't seem to be suffering any more than their healthy peers. I'm praying she leans that way too, if so, crisis averted.
My strategy: The odds of me changing anyone's mind, if they need changing, in there is close to, if not, zero. I know this, categorically. It would be akin to trying to win an argument on the internet, I'll just be casting pearls before swine. So, what I think I can do is this. First, I'll insist that my son be tested for antibodies because "I don't think I can give my blessing to this without knowing that first". This might kick the can down the road long enough for additional damning evidence to come out. In other words, run the damn ball and run out the clock.
If that doesn't work, then I'm going to play the "informed consent" game I need to put together a list of intelligent questions and keep that appointment going for as long as possible. I'll be a pain in the ass with my questions, I will try not to give my opinion, I'm just going to play the curious fool and eventually hold their feet to the fire on the ethics of injecting an experimental drug into my boy.
Here is where I need help. What are the questions I should ask without making my strategy totally obvious?
