Seems pretty dickish. Are the other KC'ers really annoying/smell bad?
Tough situation. I mean, on the one hand I wouldn't want to go out to lunch with "oldies" but on the other hand I don't like mean people.
Tough situation. I mean, on the one hand I wouldn't want to go out to lunch with "oldies" but on the other hand I don't like mean people.
I know, right? There also seems to be a lot of sucking up to the "leader" of the michiganders, which may be required.
Easy solution is bringing lunch. Don't have to pick sides and don't have to be mean and don't have to kiss ass and don't have to be bored w/ old people.
On the other hand, being chummy w/ the mean people could be better career wise.
So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here. I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out. And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky. (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch. (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all :popcorn: at the lunch situations))
Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?
So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here. I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out. And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky. (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch. (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all :popcorn: at the lunch situations))
Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?
It's just you dude: you're a douchebag. :nahnah:
Tough situation. I mean, on the one hand I wouldn't want to go out to lunch with "oldies" but on the other hand I don't like mean people.
I know, right? There also seems to be a lot of sucking up to the "leader" of the michiganders, which may be required.
Easy solution is bringing lunch. Don't have to pick sides and don't have to be mean and don't have to kiss ass and don't have to be bored w/ old people.
On the other hand, being chummy w/ the mean people could be better career wise.
In that case I would jump ship and join the hip mean people immediately. I mean, you gotta get yours (< the hip athletes say this)
In that case I would jump ship and join the hip mean people immediately. I mean, you gotta get yours (< the hip athletes say this)
I think the KCites should get together and make it a point to ask the Michiganders if they want to go out to lunch with them. The KCites would then seem like the arrogant ones who pity the Michiganders.
KCite leader (possibly you) should say something like "hey, sorry we never thought to ask if you guys wanted to go out to lunch, but your welcome to join us if you want."
I think this would really "flip the script".
So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here. I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out. And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky. (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch. (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all :popcorn: at the lunch situations))
Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?
It's just you dude: you're a douchebag. :nahnah:
No, I'm a confirmed non-douchebag.
We had a co-worker at my work whom we really despised, but for whatever reason he thought he was best friends w/ us. Every single day he would go out to lunch, and on the occasion we'd want to go out to lunch he'd want to go with us. He was very annoying. We started devising plans to exclude him. If he asked us where we were going to lunch, we'd say we brought our food or something like that, or we just didn't know. Then we'd all sneak out separate ways and meet up somewhere. Got real tiring. One day he found us. He was pissed that day but the next day he was our best friend again.
does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?
if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.
if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.
So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here. I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out. And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky. (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch. (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all :popcorn: at the lunch situations))
Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?
It's just you dude: you're a douchebag. :nahnah:
does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?
if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.
if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.
you know, it kind of bothers me, but it kind of doesn't, ya know?
Good advice. Maybe we could play some one-on-one basketball or something.
does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?
if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.
if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.
you know, it kind of bothers me, but it kind of doesn't, ya know?
Good advice. Maybe we could play some one-on-one basketball or something.
it kind of bothers you because it seems like maybe they don't want to eat lunch with you (and the other kc'ers). if they did want you to eat lunch w/ them i bet you'd try to find a way out of it (bringing your own lunch). i bet it's kinda like when person A wants to break up with person B but person B does it first. it leaves person A going "wft? how can THEY be the one breaking up w/ me?"
I'm totally that way with new people.
Do their boyfriends/fathers/pets/sons if old enough. That will teach them.
Do their boyfriends/fathers/pets/sons if old enough. That will teach them.
+1
michiganders and northern indianandites are like that. it's their culture. nothing you can do. just have an apple and enjoy the greenery.
michiganders and northern indianandites are like that. it's their culture. nothing you can do. just have an apple and enjoy the greenery.
sys always has good social commentary
michiganders and northern indianandites are like that. it's their culture. nothing you can do. just have an apple and enjoy the greenery.
sys always has good social commentary
Agreed.
Told my wife about the situation, and she said, "You sound like a bunch of 8th grade girls." I really couldn't argue. :dunno:
does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?
if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.
if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.
you know, it kind of bothers me, but it kind of doesn't, ya know?
Good advice. Maybe we could play some one-on-one basketball or something.
it kind of bothers you because it seems like maybe they don't want to eat lunch with you (and the other kc'ers). if they did want you to eat lunch w/ them i bet you'd try to find a way out of it (bringing your own lunch). i bet it's kinda like when person A wants to break up with person B but person B does it first. it leaves person A going "wft? how can THEY be the one breaking up w/ me?"
I know! I mean, I'm cool, right? :hope:I'm totally that way with new people.
how long are they new? :ohno:
Well the way I see it is, I don't want to go "Out to eat" with a complete stranger. I am a lunch bringer 90 % of the time so what I would do to get to know someone is just take a seat by them and chit chat until I am comfortable with them enough that I could take them with my friends out to eat.
If they haven't tried that then they are either huge dicks or just expecting you to invite yourself (kinda dickish).
Well the way I see it is, I don't want to go "Out to eat" with a complete stranger. I am a lunch bringer 90 % of the time so what I would do to get to know someone is just take a seat by them and chit chat until I am comfortable with them enough that I could take them with my friends out to eat.
If they haven't tried that then they are either huge dicks or just expecting you to invite yourself (kinda dickish).
There are 6 people in the entire building, and 5 of us are basically in the same room. We're far from complete strangers. We were all invited to one of the guy's wedding for chrissakes.
Ethnic make up of the Michiganites? Is this in the UP? Are they drinkers?
My preliminary thought is that they are:
a) talking crap about the kansas coworkers at lunch (are you guys super go-getters and suck ups?)
b) perhaps sneaking in a beer at lunch and don't want tattlers.