People shouldn't be lumped together with respect to what's appropriate to do or how sex advances should be received.
What does this mean? It might be appropriate to (1) talk your date into sex OR it might be appropriate to (2) take the action of trying to talk your date into sex as an unwanted advance? When someone of opinion 1 goes on a date with someone of opinion 2, that leads to the situation we are discussing. So even though you think people shouldn't be "lumped in" they are lumped into society together.
Some people might try the "claw" on a first date, many won't. This guy did what he initially thought both people were there for, under the circumstances. It was some combination of awkward and aggressive, imo.
Some people after going back to the other's apartment and one wanting to put the other on the kitchen counter would be disgusted and bust the white wine bottle upside the head and bounce. Others might be way into it and even freakier and put their claw up the other's ass. Others will do some awkward back-and-forth with clothes on and off and watching tv and some oral and then get an uber.
I don't take that story to say anything about men or women or society.